Returning to office.. Chris: it was 1 1/2 years ago that i accepted a field assignment at our client's chemical plant. i accepted this position to escape the office in which the OW worked and which reminded me of the divorce i was going through. i took this position in hopes that my ex would consider working on things. it also allowed me to escape all the questions and awkward situations in the office that i'm sure would surface once word spread that i was divorcing my wife. pretty much everyone in the office knew me and it made me sick to think of having to explain my situation to all those people.
well.....while out in the field, i've grown a lot, and now divorced over a year, my ex and i have a good relationship and the kids are doing great. i guess i couldn't ask for more where my ex and kids are concerned.
the only problem is that the OW still emails from time to time and some of them hint to our past relationship and at times she looks for confirmation of whether or not i miss her, etc. she makes it out to be friendly, but knowing her, it's not. i've told her serveral times in the past year or so that i will not entertain any conversation that involves her and i prior to my divorce being final.
well, i'm headed back to the office to start my new position as project manager and i'm sure that'll mean visits to my office by the OW, whom has come to only remind me of all the bad decisions i've made in my life and part of the worst time of my life.
i can say, looking back at the person i was when i left the office over 17 months ago and the person that's is returning, is that it's not the same person. my time in the field will always remind me of the grief of my divorce, but at the same time, i will be reminded of the great strides i've made in my life by accepting my mistakes and shortcomings and looking forward to a bright future with tons of possibilities.
Re: Returning to office.. hr: Good for you. Keep working on all that progress. Remember how far you have come. Spike always says it best. Keep it business like with the OW. You don't want to have a regression.
