I need some encouraging words :-( Crystal_Blue_024: I was doing fabulous yesterday... Drea sent me a message yesterday asking for her dumb stuff back again, and I didn't respond at all... Not even a "No. Bye." Nothing... And I felt great after I did it... I felt completely empowered... I felt, "Hey I can do this. I am doing this." But now that strength has gone out the door :( And I don't know why... I dunno if it's because I was expecting her to try a little harder to talk to me, and was dissapointed when she didn't, or what... I dunno... :'(
And tonight I'm going dancing at this club with my friend, Shaunna, who is moving to CA next week, because she really wants to go there... I've completely avoided this club because Drea and I used to go there all the time together, and I don't want all of those memories and I don't want to risk running in her... But my friend really wants to go, and it's her last week, so I agreed, and she assured me that Drea wasn't coming... But I'm still afraid... I want to have fun tonight, but I'm afraid once I get in there all the memories of Drea are gonna come flooding back... And what if Drea does happen to show up, with her new someone.. Then what the hell am I gonna do... I'm gonna loose it...
I dunno what's going on... But I'm hurting today... And it sucks :( :'(
Re: I need some encouraging words :-( chaotic: Go. Dance your a$$ off and have a good time. Dont even think about her. If she does show up, dont acknowledge her. If she asks for her stuff, tell her to come by and get it on saturday at 10 am, because that is when it will all be sitting outside... Any later and you wont be responsible.
Hey, Hold your head up high. You are doing good not contacting her not letting her have her way.
Re: I need some encouraging words :-( sosad05: Before you go out, make sure you are looking hot and awesome! Dress to kill. When you go, HAVE FUN!!
If you see her, be sure to smile and SHOW her how much fun you are having. Dont let her have the satisfaction of seeing you in pain.
I agree with chaotic...pack her sh*t up and have it sitting outside of your place at a set time. Then, DONT be there.
Good luck! Be strong :)
Re: I need some encouraging words :-( abandoned1: CB - You can do this! And I'm sure you'll have a good time!
I have a similar problem in that me and the STBXW did nearly everything together for years. The grocery store, the video store, various restaurants, and most importantly our gym/health club (very much a part of our lives because we both valued keeping fit). I can't do ANYTHING without reminders of her. It's been tough. I could try changing all of those things, going wayyyy out of my way to avoid the locations we went to - but I still have to pass by them, so I figured heck, I'll fight my way through - and I have - mostly. I still have moments when I think of her - especially at the gym (I'll expect to see her on the treadmill or some other piece of equipment), but it is fleeting, and my focus returns. And I too have to wonder - and it's only a matter of time, when I'll run into her, but I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. Don't let the situation rob you of the things/places you enjoy. Fight it and overcome. Best wishes to you CB ;)
Re: I need some encouraging words :-( Crystal_Blue_024: Thanks... I am keeping it in my mind that I AM going to have fun tonight... I'm gonna look damn hot and I am gonna dance my ass off! I don't think she'll be there but if she is, I won't aknowledge her, I'll just go about having fun, and not let her see that she's upset me... But I really really hope she's not there... I haven't seen her in a month, and I'd like to make it longer...
I don't have her stuff anymore, and I've told her that repeatidly... She already got her "last chance" to pick everything up, after that I got rid of everything else, and she knows that, so I dunno why she keeps asking...
I guess I kind of figured that since she's back living at her dad's house, that she would be miserable by now, and trying to contact me, but she's not... I mean, I know it's good that she's not... In my mind, I know that.. But I just can't seem to get my heart to understand that...
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