She went back to school and kept on going flyingsolodad: I am about 4 months into my separation. It started with her going back to school after being home with the kids. She developed a couple of male friends in classes that she became close with. Over the next few months, she spent more and more time with them, starting to go out evenings, coming back later and later. This is when I started to get worried. She turns it around that I am too dependent on her. She has been living a lie for the past 8 years. She doesn’t believe I ever really loved her, and that she wasn’t in love with me any more. She finds my dependency pathetic and she doesn’t respect me, and that if I did loved her, I would want what what’s best for her, even if it’s not me.
Since then, she has moved out, and moved in with one of these “friends”, which I found out that she had at least kissed a couple of times. I have our 4 kids living with me. She comes by from time to time to see the kids, but only spends an hour or two with them, then splits.
It is eating me up. I am usually doing well enough when I don’t hear from her, but tears me apart when she comes by to see the kids. It’s when I hear about the little pieces of her new life that keep knocking by backwards. I just don’t feel I have a choice because of my kids. I am also tired of defending her to them, but what choice do I have. I feel like I have so much to deal with, then the waves of depression kick in and makes it all that much worse. I just don’t understand how she can throw it all away.
Re: She went back to school and kept on going cstar17: I have no experience in this, but my intuition says to make her explain her behavior to the kids. When they ask you, say that you don't know and that they should ask mommy. Keep in mind I have no idea what I am talking about here.
Re: She went back to school and kept on going jannette Garcia: I agree with Cstar....and I understand what you're going through even though it is not the same situation...my ex decided that partying is what he wants to do instead of having a family...so now I'm alone with my daughter and he only calls when he feels like and comes visits when he feels like and it seems he's having the time of his life and I'm miserable....but time heals everything...take it slow
