Need to find something to do!! momuv3: I have been a stay at home mom and wife for as long as I can remember. I love being with my kids (17,15,13) and like that I can be there for them and keep them on track. THis was my second marriage and as much as I missed my kids when they went to their dads (my first marriage) I had my stbxh there.
BUT......
Now, that hes left I am going crazy. My entire world is my kids. They have always been priority number one for me, but I am finding myself trying to keep them around just so I am not so lonely. They are teenagers that have their own lives and don't want to hang out with mom. I have some girlfriends, but they are all happily married and don't really do much outside of their families. Like tonight, my kids are at their dads and I am sitting here going nuts. My house is cleaned spotless, im sick of watching tv and reading.
I am trying to find something to do to get out of the house a bit and socialize. I live in a pretty small town that loves to gossip so I really want to avoid the one and only bar in town. Plus, my stbxh i believe is hitting the bar pretty heavy lately. Its only been 4 1/2 weeks since my husband left so I am not ready to date.
Can anyone suggest a way to meet people just to hang out or have some sort of life???
Re: Need to find something to do!! fly: Take a walk at a nearby park, or take drive to another town and see a movie? That may be a place to start.
** hugs**
Re: Need to find something to do!! Whirlpool: You are not a stay at home wife anymore, how about getting job? Work is probably the most social thing you can do, that is where most meet friends and network not to mention potential dates. Your kid are teens now, is there is a reason they need you to stay home all day?
Re: Need to find something to do!! superwife: Sage advice from WP again...
I think the reson I'm handling this pretty well (don't laugh guys..it could be worse) is that I dwork and go to school. And I only have 1 child, who is younger. I did not spend the last 13 years being a mother to 3 kids. I worked since she was a baby, so i do have another thing in my life that defines me. You need that. Doesn't have to be 'work', per se (but $$ is a nice thing to have, along with some financial independence, IMO). Volunteering is also an option.
A coworker is in a similar situation to you, altho she is divorced for 10 yrs. Her girls are aged 16-22 (3 of them as well). Altho she worked fulltime, she otherwise lived for her kids. Never went on a date, and hardly ever socialized. Don't become her... her girls love her to death (she is an awesome mom), but i think that they worry about her. One is out of college, lives out of state, one is in college, and now the youngest has the 'burden' of looking out for mom.
You need to live for yourself a bit, and i think you realie that. Your kids will always need you, but will not always want to hang otu with you, as you pointed out.
Re: Need to find something to do!! Bird: definitely with the others on this one.... a job! best way to meet people- gives your life routine.
or do a course in a neighbouring town--- art, languages- or something daring- something you've always wanted to do, but just didn't for whatever reason
i've been taking french classes and i've met some great people- who i've already met up with for lunch etc...
