Re: Just to be wanted.... BeatenNotBroken: My advice to you would be to drop the victim mentality. Focus and repeat to yourself that you love yourself and that you will be loved by someone one day. Make sure you put yourself out there love will not come knocking on your door. Alot of times you will draw to yourself what you think. I'm a firm believer of this. Think and believe it will come and never lose hope.
Re: Just to be wanted.... TeddyR: Whatever you do,don't blame yourself for the lack of being loved.It's all too common to hear of people who had a childhood homelife of abuse and end up in relationships that have the same atmosphere,the same pattern.Sort of like you have a sign hanging on yourself inviting those types of people in.Your a loving,caring human.You've just had an extremely difficult time of it up till now.If your a little religous,maybe a church group would be a good way of meeting decent folks?......Just don't give up and don't fall for the first person you find that shows a little caring.Take some time getting to know some people and then move on when your comfortable about your next relationship.I worry that with your current mindset "just wanting to be wanted" will only invite trouble since some people look for easy prey.Consider getting some sort of counseling to help you on your way.This won't be easy,but with time and a little direction you WILL find Happiness.I wish you only the best.
Re: Just to be wanted.... Bree: I can relate to you. You are definitely NOT alone. In my deepest of feelings, I feel that nobody truly loves me. Yes, I had a troubled upbringing but I have forgiven my mom, etc. I don't hold a grudge. I just accept that she did the best she could and I moved on to my own life. The breaking point for me happened last year. After a failed decade plus marriage, I finally got out. It took me 3+ yrs of living in limbo to finally move on and after a little dating I fell for my now husband. He came from a messed up upbringing, too and I felt we connected and gave each other what we both seemed to lack in our lives ...love! I never doubted his devotion or dedication to me until he left me while very pregnant to try to pursue a life w/his ex. It' s along story, but that wiped out every bit of self-worth I ever had for myself. I'm struggling to change the way I feel but it's so damn hard. I'm very depressed right now. Sorry to be so long-winded, but when you think someone loves you so much only to find out the crushed your heart and didn't even care. We're back together, but I'm not happy. I don't think there is anything he can do to restore my faith in him every again. I'm devistated.
