Re: my story . . . heartbroken in alaska arcticrover: All right. That's it. Enough of this crap. Enough of this pain. You can check out the unsent letters area for my blowup.
Here's the important part: I'm tired of being hurt and being dissapointed. I'm tired of no being good enough formher. So, starting now I'm not going to call her. I'm not going to e-mail her. I'm not going to SMS her. I'm not going to do anything nice for her. I'm not going to stop by the house when she is there. She's going to get a week without me . . . . without me at all. I hope she really feels the lack, cause at this point she's a step away from losing her loving husband for the rest of her life.
Re: my story . . . heartbroken in alaska Older Guy: Based on the epxeriemce of several and i mean thousands and thosuands before you.....adding distance between you and giving her space is your best bet right now. Listen to Spike when he tells you to focus on yourself.
Constantly trying to win her over and calling her will only work against you. Focus on yourself,, leave her be and don't try to do anything for her like calling her, SMS or anything..... focus on you. If she is meant to come back she will. But it can take time. It will definitely make her question her actions and wonder what you're up to and why you are not running after her anymore. She might all of a sudden feel very alone.
Good lcuk.
Re: my story . . . heartbroken in alaska newts: Hey Arc,
You are taking far too much responsibilty for the end of your relationship.
Your ex needs to seek counseling, repressing this sort of trauma can cause her far more in her future than just losing you.
I think she may feel as though you are too close now that you know this dirty little family secret and you are obviously a daily reminder of the pain that she has yet to deal with or come to terms with? It's easier to run away than deal with the truth and the pain.
I am not a counsellor, however, your marriage seems to have gone down hill dramatically after she found out and remembered what happened to her.
If she doesn't get help she will never be happy in any part of her life ever again.
Just hang in there, you have done everything you can to salvage your relationship and there is only so much one person can do if the other party wants nothing to do with making your relationship work. You need to give her that space she craves, it wont help her, however, it is what she is asking you for so as hard as it is, you need to give it to her.
