Re: my story . . . heartbroken in alaska thehitekrednek: Focus on yourself, my friend. You can't be responsible for any ones happiness but your own. By the same token, no one can make you happy, but yourself.
This is a rough time, we've all been there, but right now you need to take care of YOU. Focus on YOURSELF, fix yourself, and become the man you want to be, when you finish this rough road, the next road will be much smoother.
Good luck and stay strong.
Re: my story . . . heartbroken in alaska drowned: I am sorry to hear what you are going through but many of us have and are going through our losses as well. We must analyze ourselfs at this point in time and make the smart decisions to protect ourselves. You mentioned something about signing some paperwork while you were vulnerable......DON'T let it happen again. I cannot stress the important of legalities involving your situation.
Reflecting back is what everyone goes through and one day your wife will reflect back and realize she made a big mistake....but that's not now nor soon, so prepare yourself for the worst as it is on the horizon. I wish I could shoot you over a magic pill for the pain but there is no such thing.
Don't let your heart get the best of you now, your mind must think on it's own to make the right choices for yourself.
I wish you the best and keep posting here....ojar is a great place
drowned~
Re: my story . . . heartbroken in alaska arcticrover: thanks spike and drowned.
Re: my story . . . heartbroken in alaska metaverse3: Gotta love that "friend" who advises you to lay off while he zeroes in...
We live in a cynical world..sad, but true..
There is a point where all your efforts taper off. Do absolutely nothing, since nothing you will do be will be good enough for her or your relationship.. Nothing is the magic word.. It is time to do nothing for her, and everything for you.
What is worth saving in your marriage with an unfaithful wife ? She needs help more than you do. Believe me, you cannot exert enough pressure to fuel infidelity. It is in the mind of the beholder. What I can tell you is that down the line, your wife will mature in her own ways and realize where she is and where she needs to be.. The pain is unbearable, but, suicide is never the answer.. When you come out of this, you will be stronger.. You will not realize your inner strength currently, but you will look back and see what you don't currently know. As already advised, do not sign any paperwork. Chuck it aside for later if you have to, but don't sign anything, especially in anger..
You will find peace..with time.. Reflect on yourself and stop taking blame..things will get better..
Re: my story . . . heartbroken in alaska arcticrover: thanks metaverse. well, tonight is going to be a test. i already came home to grab some things to bring to my new apartment where i will try my first night's sleep away from our house. i already failed by not just picking them up and leaving. i've called her three times with no answer. i called a friend and am going to hang out with them until it's late. even then all i will think about is her. this is so crazy! even as i pack and walk out the door she finds fault with me. why does she have to keep pummeling me with questions like "why didn't you do this three months ago when it really could have made a difference?" how do you answer that? it's quite simple. "I'm in love with you. i love you. i want this to work. i want to spend my life with you. i'm afraid that if i go now your stubborness will keep us apart forever." i have to go and hang out with friends. i feel so ALONE!!!!!
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