Just found out....update FreakingOut: Well, I got up the courage to call the boyfriend's wife about 30 min ago. She's freaking out as well. I sent her all the e-mails and pictures that I had dug up. Including the nasty ones. At first she said she was leaving when we got off the phone originally. I'm glad I didn't wuss out on that call. She thanked me repeatedly for letting her know. Which is a releif cuz I almost threw up just retelling the story for her.
And she just called back to tell me that he was coming home for lunch, so his world is about to get rocked just like mine. She also changed her mind and wants to kick him out instead of her leaving....BUT she is a stay at home mom, so it's definitely more complicated with her.
I've pretty much decided not to go to Vegas. I'm just gonna kick it here at the crib and see what the fallout is. Now that he has to deal with his own wife, maybe he'll leave mine alone.
I'm still torn on what to do. But I'm already getting over the hurt and the freaking out mode and now I'm just pissed. That's why I made the call to his wife.
Re: Just found out....update CDNgurl: Sometimes Karma has a name... and that name is FreakingOut.
That must have been hard to do. Very brave.
Re: Just found out....update Peaceandquiet: Good for you... it may sound a little strange.. but the OM's ex became one of my best friends.... they can be a tremendous support system and you for them.. because not only are you going through the same thing.. your going through it with the same people... I wouldn't trade her for the world.. we both helped each other out with gathering evidence, courts and emotional support. She ended up finding a great guy and in fact he is moving down here this weekend to live.. I couldn't be happier for her.. she deserves it after all we both went through.
I know it was a hard phone call to make.. but you made the right choice.
Re: Just found out....update FreakingOut: I was shaking so bad and I kept saying "don't pick up" while the phone was ringing, but I'm glad she did.
I feel like a weight is lifted off my shoulders because now I feel like it's not jsut on me to decide where everything goes. Now, I've almost got some backup working the same way I am, ya know? I jsut really hate it for her and the kids. That was what was scaring me about calling. Thinking about putting someone else through this especially someone with kids. BUT, I'm so glad is life just got fucked.
Re: Just found out....update lilly10: Good for you FreakingOut. She desereved to know what her husband was doing behind her back. This was the right thing to do.
Sorry you're going through all this! I can imagine how hard it must have been to make that phone call. Hang in there!
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