Re: Just found out....update FreakingOut: Ya. I'm still here and I'm not leaving. Told the buddy I was going to Vegas with to have a good time on his B0Day. I wasnt' the only one going, but he and I were flying out there together. Kinda sucks too cuz another fried is in Day 3 of the World Series of Poker and we were gonna go cheer him on.
I'm pretty much in this intermediate stage right now. Kinda weird. I'm pissed/hurt/shocked but I still don't know if I want to even try to work it out. After telling dude's wife, depending on what happens there, he may no longer have a reason not to try and hook back up with my wife.
Blah, I still can't help feeling horrible when I think about seperating from my wife.
Re: Just found out....update icwtsmnl: of course you can't help feeling that way. and chances are, the "blahs" will get worse before they get better. i'm sorry you are going through this.
hugs.
Re: Just found out....update FreakingOut: Just got a call from his wife again. She called him to come home and they had it out. She's kicking him out of his house. She said that their arguments were pretty close to mine with my wife. No remorse what so ever. No apologies and saying the affair will never happen again. No saying that it was over, nothing like that.
And since everything my wife was saying sounded like it all hinged on this f-cker, now he has nothing to lose. So we'll see what happens tonight when my wife gets home. If she says she's leaving or what.
Re: Just found out....update lunatweeker: dude i know that its like to sit and wait like your doing
when i found out about my x i had to wait to confront her about it
be strong
Re: Just found out....update chaotic: I remember the first few days after I found out what my wife did.
The most important thing You need to remember is that you have friends here, and in the real world (not that we are not real). Between us and them, you have people you can talk to. DO NOT try to deal with all the emotions on your own. They are too big. This situation is too big to handle by yourself.
When I told my boss what was going on, it was the first time since I was a child that I ever broke down and cried, and it was in front of somebody. I felt ashamed. I was angry and I was hurting. He assured me that he would be there for me and never let me down. The folks here on OJAR never let me down when I needed advice or just to vent out. Use these resources and you will get thru this, I promise. Keep in mind that it will feel like it gets worse before it gets better, but we will be here for all of it.
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