Re: My sad sad tale Sirchatsalot:
I am so sorry, this is very sad.
Survive now, a day at a time, and you will thrive later. In order for him to be capable of this betrayal, there is an obvious defect of character. One that would have emerged sooner or later.
It may not seem like it, but you are headed OUT of the stormy waters. Hang on.
Re: My sad sad tale e-blogger: Yes, it is a sad tale. I'm so very sorry to hear about your experience. It does get a lot better, though. My husband left me for a woman who's 10 years older with two kids, and he was even debating on whether or not he should give her a third baby. I was very saddened by this, because we spent 10 years together and I have no children.
Best of luck to you, hope you can handle things well. We'll be here to listen.
Re: My sad sad tale Deadinside: We were together for 9 years but only just got married in October. A month before he left, we were trying to get pregnant. Who does that?
I know he is misserable right now, and a part of me wants to feel sorry for him and the mess that he has gotten himself into.
I know I need to do the no contact thing, but it is hard when we are still working out details of the seperation and the finances.
Re: My sad sad tale arcticrover: quite honestly, i have been weak enough to use every excuse (finances, seperation admin stuff, paperwork, etc) under the sun to talk to my wife. lately, i don't even make excuses. i just haven't been able to bring myself to leave her alone.
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We were together for 9 years but only just got married in October. A month before he left, we were trying to get pregnant. Who does that?
I know he is misserable right now, and a part of me wants to feel sorry for him and the mess that he has gotten himself into.
I know I need to do the no contact thing, but it is hard when we are still working out details of the seperation and the finances.
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Please PLEASE keep in mind that you did nothing to deserve this. There is not one thing that you could have done that would have forced him to make a decision to do something this terrible. It was a weakness on his part NOT yours.
The no contact thing is very useful, but you are correct that its tough during the separation process. Try using a lawyer as the go between. It also helps maintain an aire of professionality between you. I found that that alone helped me immensly during the period when contacting my ex was so very difficult and caused a lot of pain.
Furthermore, DO NOT feel bad for him. This is a situation he brought upon himself. I am sorry that you are feeling the brunt of pain, but he needs to learn to sleep in the bed he made.
