Re: Burning Down the Other Side of the Hill confused101: [quote"> Well its all a crap shoot anyway... [/quote">
Too bad I rolled a snake eyes.....
Re: Burning Down the Other Side of the Hill So_Lost: Well its all a crap shoot anyway...
Re: Burning Down the Other Side of the Hill So_Lost: I agree with Poppy....
I know it sucks, and its going to be hard as hell on your wife and your kids, but the truth is, you can't stay unhappy for the rest of your life.
YOU ONLY GET ONE LIFE!!
Repeat that a few times...
Now think about it. Do you want to spend that ONE LIFE unhappy, and ALWAYS I mean ALWAYS wondering what it COULD have been like with the woman you REALLY want?
Re: Burning Down the Other Side of the Hill CDNgurl: [quote author=So_Lost link=topic=33009.msg339361#msg339361 date=1155325258">
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I agree with Poppy....
I know it sucks, and its going to be hard as hell on your wife and your kids, but the truth is, you can't stay unhappy for the rest of your life.
YOU ONLY GET ONE LIFE!!
Repeat that a few times...
Now think about it. Do you want to spend that ONE LIFE unhappy, and ALWAYS I mean ALWAYS wondering what it COULD have been like with the woman you REALLY want?
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I don't disagree with this... however I read somewhere that people who divorce more often than not find themselves just as unhappy 5 years later.
You have only one chance to be a parent as well. Respectfully, I think you need to give your relationship 100% of your effort. If it doesn't work out, then maybe the other woman will be there.
Poppy, I agree with what you say, but wouldn't the better gift have been your parents loveing eachother? Sometimes it isn't possible, but I think people give up way too easily. Is the grass greener?
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Listen, a year ago I would have agreed with you. However, over time i have learned just how unhappy we really were. If my ex hadn't cheated, we would still be together, but i think it would have ended eventually due to the other issues.
People get married when they think they have found what they wanted... who is to say that what you really want still is waiting for you out there?
If your soulmate one day showed up while you were married to someone you only half loved, would you really stay with that person and give up the chance to be truely happy forever?
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I know what I would do... doesn't mean I judge what others do... truly.
But who is to say "truly happy forever"? Isn't that what the first marriage was for? I'm saying that with children, people should turn over every last stone IMHO.
But heck, what do I know? :-\
Re: Burning Down the Other Side of the Hill Feel: Ok, you left your job, you have no contact with her, than if that is the case that she only contacts you, then obviously its because she feels some type of hope on your part... Are you replying in any way to her emails, calls, text messages, if its through these chanels. If so, avoid it at all costs..... ALL COSTS
Listen, you yourself said that your wife is a saint, you know her and very well, you share a family a life and most of all a lot of good and maybe a hand full of bad ( as this one) so why not just remember what it was about your wife that you loved so much...
Maybe she has changed as a person, but if so I imagine through the pressures of everyday life... maybe a huge struggle or maybe with ageing... as a woman, I can tell you this, I was that saint you are saying she is and I would have done anything for my husband... but I hid a lot of my feelings toward him even the littlest thing that might not have mattered, and it installed a fear in me that if I said anything to him I was afraid he'd walk... so about your wife, don't think she is not hiding how she truly feels, regardless if you were upfront with her... If you love her and still do and you child(ren) then you will do what it takes to please her as she has you!
as for the OW, she will always just be the OW....
If you could put the world on hold and take the OW in as a wife , no child and then have a child with her a house, home, could you honesly say she would make up to your wife?????????????????????????????????? I think that is a thought... Imagine if we could do that to make sure we have made the right choices....... Your choice was to marry your wife and be happy with her! Well do it!
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The grass is greener on the other side of the fence because it is sitting on top of a septic tank.
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