Re: Burning Down the Other Side of the Hill Feel: RainKing, why did your wife walk out? lol ;D
Anyway, BCMI, I am a little shocked. BUt I want to ask, did you cheat, though I beleive even thinking about it is cheating....
In all this you have not once spoke about your wife's feelings so I am lead to beleive you really don't care but are going through the motions and in all of this you and your wife are probably fighting at every chance there is!
She may not have had much time for you (the wife) maybe to busy with your children, her own work, maybe even alot of her time spent trying to be perfect for you so you don't leave.
Have you really thought about the grass on the other side? Maybe she divorced because her husband couldn't take her shit no more, maybe you weren't the only guy! Why would her husband alk away wehn as you say it neer went that far?
To be honest I am a little confused myself... Are you a family man?
Re: Burning Down the Other Side of the Hill sf7: RainKing...sweet! Since she's Mormon, I'll run that by her. Maybe that's the answer all along. And I'll also finally bring political stability to the Middle East while I'm at it.
Oh it "went that far", make no mistake. But I came clean and resolved it through several channels, primarily my wife's. Honestly, that isn't the issue, believe it or not. My wife holds no contempt for that. Amazing. The real loss is that emotional connection. I've had the contact severed for several months now but man, it's only magnifying the other side. And I did quit the old job...that does nothing, she contacts me through several other mediums. Constant. "I miss you", "I love you", "I need you", "we are perfect together", I want to marry you"...it goes on forever.
Just keep waiting for that "relief" but honestly man, how do you stop comparing, missing, seeing the gaps that the other side didn't have? I know...KNOW...my wife is a saint. I beleive that she's honestly content, but it's a battle in the shadows on my end to make it all complete for her. For her. Freakin' mess.
Re: Burning Down the Other Side of the Hill hr: The grass is greener on the other side of the fence because it is sitting on top of a septic tank.
Re: Burning Down the Other Side of the Hill Feel: Ok, you left your job, you have no contact with her, than if that is the case that she only contacts you, then obviously its because she feels some type of hope on your part... Are you replying in any way to her emails, calls, text messages, if its through these chanels. If so, avoid it at all costs..... ALL COSTS
Listen, you yourself said that your wife is a saint, you know her and very well, you share a family a life and most of all a lot of good and maybe a hand full of bad ( as this one) so why not just remember what it was about your wife that you loved so much...
Maybe she has changed as a person, but if so I imagine through the pressures of everyday life... maybe a huge struggle or maybe with ageing... as a woman, I can tell you this, I was that saint you are saying she is and I would have done anything for my husband... but I hid a lot of my feelings toward him even the littlest thing that might not have mattered, and it installed a fear in me that if I said anything to him I was afraid he'd walk... so about your wife, don't think she is not hiding how she truly feels, regardless if you were upfront with her... If you love her and still do and you child(ren) then you will do what it takes to please her as she has you!
as for the OW, she will always just be the OW....
If you could put the world on hold and take the OW in as a wife , no child and then have a child with her a house, home, could you honesly say she would make up to your wife?????????????????????????????????? I think that is a thought... Imagine if we could do that to make sure we have made the right choices....... Your choice was to marry your wife and be happy with her! Well do it!
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Re: Burning Down the Other Side of the Hill confused101: You may need treatment from the Betty Ford Center for the Obsessed (BFCO). At BFCO not only will they cure you of your obsessiveness about the other woman, but they will show you the reasons why you fell in love with your wife in the first place.
At the very least you can take advantage of the free continental breakfasts.
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