HIS WEEKEND giver: So tonight is the night that "Visitation" begins. This man that CHOSE to walk out on his faithful wife and loving daughter just becasue "his head was screwed up" now gets to take her from 5:00 pm today until 6:00 pm Sunday.
I THINK I'M GONNA BE SICK!!!!!!!!
I've sat here all day trying to fight back the tears casued from knowing she has to go with him and doesn't want to. She thinks I'm making her. Please understand that I'm not against visitation. But this man who was the center of this little girls world has seen her 12 times in 17 weeks. 9 of them for 30 minutes or less at our home......2 of them for 2 hours (took her bowling which she hates and he loves) and to McDonalds......and 1 for several hours just because it was fatheres day. This is the man that went 31 days without seeing her and 17 days straight without even talking to her. And the hardest part is she doesn't want to go. She is still in the hate mode. She hates him and she doesn't want to go.
How do I get through this? This may very well be the longest weekend of my life. I've cried my eyes out most of the day. She called me when she got out of school and asked if she still had to go. We hung up the phone BOTH in tears. This sucks.....along with the rest of life right now. I don't know how I will be able to see the pain and fear in her eyes as they pull awway and not pull her out of the vehicle and let her stay.
Yep....I think I'm gonna be sick!!!!
Re: HIS WEEKEND PennyLane: Oh Man. I soo feel for you.
When my ex left me and came to pick up my daughter for the first weekend stay I thought I was going to puke. It was the longest weekend of my life. Unlike your ex or stbx, he wanted and has always been a good dad to my daughter. I just hated the fact I had to be alone because he wanted out.
Do you have friends to call. I remember spending a lot of time talking to people. It was dead winter and freaking cold. I couldnt even get out to go anywhere.
How old is your daughter?
Re: HIS WEEKEND confused101: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
Re: HIS WEEKEND giver: [quote author=PennyLane link=topic=33023.msg339377#msg339377 date=1155326145">
Do you have friends to call. I remember spending a lot of time talking to people. It was dead winter and freaking cold. I couldnt even get out to go anywhere.
How old is your daughter?
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Most of our friends were his friends. My best friend is pregnant and wrapped in hreself (not a bad thing)...I basically have family (who are all as upset as I am) and OJAR.
My daughter will be 10 in 17 days.
Re: HIS WEEKEND giver: [quote author=Rainking link=topic=33023.msg339385#msg339385 date=1155326584">
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
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And a 10 gallon bnucket to catch all the puke and tears in the process.
No, really RK....thanks. I'm trying to acceot it.....I really am. I want them to have a relationship. He used to be a GREAT dad. She was his life...just as she is mine. But now he's so tied up in the OW and partying and drinking....that he hasn't taken the time for her that he should. This is why it's hurting so bad. He's hurt her and I don't think it's fair that she has to go with him now just because he's paying CS. I mean...I WANTED him to come spend time with her before....what's so different now. It's like he's trying to prove that he'll get SOMETHING for his money. Well....my daughters not for sale. I just hope he doesn't introduce her to the OW. She doesn't need that yet.
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