Friday Night... JNA: It's Friday night and I am sitting here posting on OJAR...
I had a few women that wanted to go out this weekend
One a friend and two potentials...
I had some buddies that wanted to go out and passed on that so not to hurt the girls feelings if they found out
So how do you get past the hurt feeling of getting "burned" by someone you trusted with all of your heart...
How do you open up and let someone in again...
That is one answer I have searched for and do not have
All replies welcome as I am at a loss...
JNA
Re: Friday Night... brokenbaby: You don't get past the feeling in one big leap. Tiny steps. A casual date, coffee. Conversations. You don't have to let them in, but you should allow yourself to experience the beginnings of trust again. If it becomes too much back off and try it again.
Lately my motto has been...
"Do one thing every day that scares you."
Re: Friday Night... Melbel: JNA,
I think you move past the hurt by taking care of you. Doing things you enjoy(sports, painting, dancing,cooking etc.). Going out is a great way to keep your mind off of the pain. Be with people that care about you, they want to help you and make sure you are ok! It is time to be selfish...take care of you. If you would rather go out with the guys then this girl just let her know....just be honest! Now is your time, take it!
I think letting someone in is the hardest part of moving on....that means you have to trust them, you have to share with them and care about them. I have been on the market for a good month now and have done very little about it! My body tells me I am ready but my heart and mind are saying diffrent! You are a smart, witty and caring person! When you are truely ready that person will see all the great qualities about you!
Be nice to yourself buddy!
Melissa
Re: Friday Night... JNA: [quote author=freebaby link=topic=33055.msg339686#msg339686 date=1155359914">
You don't get past the feeling in one big leap. Tiny steps. A casual date, coffee. Conversations. You don't have to let them in, but you should allow yourself to experience the beginnings of trust again. If it becomes too much back off and try it again.
Lately my motto has been...
"Do one thing every day that scares you."
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I back off a lot...
Never did before her but I guess as you say I have to learn to "trust" again
Seems like everytime I do I get burned though...
FB wrote: "Do one thing every day that scares you."
I'll have to keep this for future reference...
Great Quote
IMO
JNA
Re: Friday Night... JNA: [quote author=Melbel link=topic=33055.msg339690#msg339690 date=1155360376">
JNA,
I think you move past the hurt by taking care of you. Doing things you enjoy(sports, painting, dancing,cooking etc.). Going out is a great way to keep your mind off of the pain. Be with people that care about you, they want to help you and make sure you are ok! It is time to be selfish...take care of you. If you would rather go out with the guys then this girl just let her know....just be honest! Now is your time, take it!
I think letting someone in is the hardest part of moving on....that means you have to trust them, you have to share with them and care about them. I have been on the market for a good month now and have done very little about it! My body tells me I am ready but my heart and mind are saying diffrent! You are a smart, witty and caring person! When you are truely ready that person will see all the great qualities about you!
Be nice to yourself buddy!
Melissa
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Well that's the problem Melissa...
I just don't want to go out anymore
I like flirting and playing around but when it comes to going out I don't want too...
I have never had a problem getting girls so thank God for that but now after her I don't know
I can get a girl but then I'm leary I guess...
Damn I wish I never met this woman I met a few years ago
It's not like she was even "all" that...
I just liked her personality...Thought she was adorable and felt sorry for her
It will "always" amaze me till the day I die how someone you thought was "so" sincere can be the exact opposite of that...
JNA
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