when do i give up? simon lacey: hi guys again, simon here, i know it is a rolllercoaster ride, and one day i am up and one day i am down, had the kids last night great time with them, when i picked them up claire was ok but she said to me that when she has her night of she dosnt want the kids phoning her to say goodnight, she wants them just to text her, she said if she was studying it would disturd her, she also said that it feels like i am checking up on her to see if she is in, i am not,of course i want to know if she is going out that is just curiosity.
i had mentioned to her that i was going out out on saturday with my female boss and her daughter and her daughter boyfriend, for a meal and a drink to discuss work and have a general chat, i had told her about this before and she was fine and i can assure everyone that there is nothing in it at all.
now when i told her she said well you can do what u like and i can do what i like we are seperated, but she had agreed that we would tell each other if we are going out because we have nothing to hide, now in my eyes we have been together for 14 years have 4 kids and i still she her as my wife and i still love her, and i would not go with anyone else because i would see that as cheating, she dosnt she thinks we are seperated and can not see what i am saying.
Now i am trying some divorce busting ideas and already i can see a positive effect to us, we are getting on better thursday night dropped the kids of and we chatted for about 30 mins as a family and we all had a good laugh it felt good, like it used to be, but when it comes to me having the kids then it is harder because i think is she going out and who with, i trust she is not seeing anyone, but like some of the posts on here you never know.
You know the funny thing is when i started to write this post i did not know what to do but hey now i do, i love her and i can not give up yet this is one of problems i have to get over, i always had a problem with jealousy and i can only sort it out if i combat this, so if she wants to lie and cheat on me after she has said she hasnt , well then there is nothing i can do about it, but just be a good nice caring person for me and my kids and my wife , because when it comes down to it we all have to live with our actions .
feel better now
cheers simon
Re: when do i give up? Older Guy: Just try to focus on yourself and your kids and don't pay to much attnetion to her or what she is doing. Shge is going to do what she has to do whether you worry about it or not.
I've been to where you are and trust me things will get better with time and you will be able top accept and move on. But you have to do your homework. Which is focussing on yourself and not on her.
I thought that i loved my ex-wife too for a while but when i think about it now.... i was more afraid of facing the future by myself and confused that feeling with thinking that i wanted her back and couldn't do without her. When i finally started ingnoring her she started coming back to me and wanted to come back at some point but by then i was happy with my life and didn't need her around.
Not saying that it will be exactly the same for you, but usually the outcome is a variation on this theme.
Good lcuk,
OG
