d!ang - old regrets clambakesX: So I've got US radio on, for the first time since living here. Was trying to catch Car Talk, but got the schedule wrong so it's a news program.
The last commentator is the father of a guy with whom I was pretty fascinated in college. I'd never have had a chance ... because I was so uptight, so unsure of myself and so on.
There were plenty of reasons I got involved with / settled for my ex, and none of them are pretty. Ten years later, I've improved a lot of things, built strengths where weakness used to dominate, and so on. The marriage forced me to grow.
But I can't help regretting having settled, and wondering if I couldn't have found a more nurturing environment in which I would've grown without having to fight for survival.
Re: d!ang - old regrets Lumpy: Done is done. What-ifs are pointless. Take satisfaction in the fact that you recognized those weaknesses and improved yourself.
Re: d!ang - old regrets Whirlpool: I can go back to about a hundred points in my life where I could have-should have-would have done something different or better. No saved games in this life to load and retry again so just live and learn.
Re: d!ang - old regrets ChristyM: Just had this same conversation with current b/f last night. I agree with the others though that it's pointless to wonder "what if". It's sorta like the "grass is always greener" thingamajig.
Plus, one has to wonder if "fighting for survival" requires you to grow much more than that elusive nurturing environment.
Christy
Re: d!ang - old regrets Lumpy: [quote author=Whirlpool link=topic=33058.msg340112#msg340112 date=1155469149">
I can go back to about a hundred points in my life where I could have-should have-would have done something different or better. No saved games in this life to load and retry again so just live and learn.
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Wouldn't a reset button for life be awesome? If only life were more like videogames.
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