Re: d!ang - old regrets pluscachange: [quote author=Lumpy link=topic=33058.msg340185#msg340185 date=1155494233">
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I can go back to about a hundred points in my life where I could have-should have-would have done something different or better. No saved games in this life to load and retry again so just live and learn.
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Wouldn't a reset button for life be awesome? If only life were more like videogames.
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"odd parents, fairly odd parents!"
Re: d!ang - old regrets Ramsey: I wish I had cheat codes for my life.
Triangle, triangle, square, square, circle, circle, up, down, left, right = Happy life with someone that loves you.
Re: d!ang - old regrets lostself: Speaking of old regrets, I am wondering if I will have some on my current relationship. I am not settling, but I am wondering if my SO is. Should I lose out on what I want and love because I am not the perfect fit? Will I regret it later, will I lose myself if I keep trying to be what is wanted?
Re: d!ang - old regrets JimB: [quote author=Medusa link=topic=33058.msg339708#msg339708 date=1155376759">
The marriage forced me to grow.
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Bingo. You wouldn't be the person you are today without that. The "nurturing environment" you reference would have resulted in a vastly different present-day you, and there are no guarantees you'd like that version of you better than the one you've got.
I played the what-if game for a while, but it got old. I'm not pleased with the way my marriage turned out, but given the life situation I was in when I made that decision, I've concluded I'd do the same thing 99 times out of 100. You can't apply present-day circumstances to past decisions, and you can't consider those decisions in a vacuum - there were plenty of other factors involved besides your own insecurities.
I'd like to think I'm wiser now, but the only decisions that helps me out with are the ones in my future. So I've trained myself to look forward. That doesn't mean it isn't kind of fun (in a mildly self-destructive way) to say "what if" every once in a while....
Re: d!ang - old regrets clambakesX: The eternal JimB!
99.7% of the time, I've been focused on the positives and leaving what was in the past. (Another plus of the experience.)
Which is why the 0,3% moments are so surprising and feel kind of other-worldly.
After posting here, I googled the old classmate ... and found a blog spoofing his socialite-column wedding announcement.
It's all good.
