How was your weekend? Deadinside: It has been almost 5 weeks since the stbx moved out. I spent the weekend trying to keep busy with housework, yardwork, you name it. All in the hope of not thinking about him with the OW and what they were doing. I was proud of myself, I almost called him, but was able to stop myself. Is it just me or do you all have these long conversations with yourself? I think I might be going a little crazy, I have entire arguements with myself, and in the end, I am not sure who won.
Re: How was your weekend? Fjord Girl: No, it isn't only you. When my ex-husband left I did anything I could to keep myself busy. I went to the gym four nights a week, found excuses to work weekends, never wanted to be at home with my thoughts. Eventually the desire to shut my feelings down went away and I gave myself some time to mourn and experience my loneliness. And now... Well, that's in the past.
It's a process. Live it. And don't question why you do the things you do. It's part of your healing. Go for it.
Re: How was your weekend? thejoker: my weekend sucked. but for the record, when you argue with yourself. you always win.
I really would like to call her too....
but I won't
Re: How was your weekend? madmax: 5 weeks is still really early. I'm coming up on 2 months this week.
The activity thing will take hold...it just takes time. Keep doing what you're doing and eventually you will establish a new routine. Make a conscious effort to plan a constructive, positive new routine...like exercise, socializing with friends, yardwork, etc.
The hurtfull thoughts will become weaker and weaker as your new routine begins to direct your life. I still think about all the crap often, but I'm getting some longer spells of 'mind-time' that have nothing to do with my situation. My thoughts are automatically becoming redirected towards my new routine.
Just know that IT WILL GET BETTER!!!
Re: How was your weekend? LostTeacher: my weekend was a mixed bag.....
some good, some bad, overall........a real thinker of a time.
i have to get some guts....that's what i need to do.
LT
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