First Contact... madmax: Well, I finally heard something from her atty since she filed. She already submitted a property disclosure showing everything we own. It's not a settlement or proposal or anything like that...just a disclosure.
Let me tell you...it is detailed! She listed everything down to picture frames and cassette tapes. She had to be putting this list together LONG before she actually filed or even left.
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I guess the reason I'm mentioning this is to make people aware. If your spouse is acting like they are going to leave, there is a good chance they are just putting things in order before bailing out! I asked her several times before she left if it was over and she never said "yes" even though her mind was already made up.
Subsequently, I caught her at the house one day after she had already moved out. The first thing she asked me was "Are you home taking inventory?" Now I know she was the one taking inventory. I asked her again at that time if it was over and she angrily replied "Did I say that?".
So...DON'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU HEAR!!!!...and watch your back.
It's a bit sickening knowing now that the only reason she stayed in the house was to put together information...AND accuse me of things that she was doing.
Come to think of it...she accused me of infidelity too...hmmm...Now I wonder.....................
Re: First Contact... momuv3: Oh I believe that with all my heart. Funny how hindsight is isn't it? Right before he left, I was refinancing MY house and he had to sign something saying he had no interest or future rights to my home and if something should happen to me it went to my children. It was the mortgage lender that insisted on this. I was too trusting. After he signed it he was mad and guess what....he was gone a month later. Why didn't I see the writing on the wall then?
Re: First Contact... JNA: madmax wrote: "I guess the reason I'm mentioning this is to make people aware. If your spouse is acting like they are going to leave, there is a good chance they are just putting things in order before bailing out! "
Yup...
People are pretty coniving sometimes so you have to watch you back
I like to say my ex would kiss me in the morning...Hand me coffee then tell everyone how big of an Azz I was on the phone all day...
When she was sitting at home and I was taking care of her big time
Keep in mind though it is not a reflection on you...
But more a reflection on them...
And the non-trusting person they are for you or anyone else that enters there lives
If they do it once...
They will do it again...
JNA
Re: First Contact... drowned: Max.....well, this is the time you put your best foot forward and outsmart her with this whole divorce BS we must go through. She wants to get "detailed" show her up on it.......play your cards right and you will be ahead of the game. Don't let he F*CK you in anyway......she deserves to be screwed over after what she did to you........mine too ;D
