Re: now what... chrisS: Sadly this is my current situation but I'm the nice guy. My relationship with my ex was this down to a tee and I can tell you it broke me to piecies when she decided that after getting married it wasnt what she wanted after all. I love her two kids as if they are my own and she still wants me to see them because they grew to love me as their dad. It's a horrible situation for me and her and it tears me up everytime I go over there to see them in what used to be our house. Was just over there today and they still call me daddy :(
Re: now what... vjsauce: i do want to be with him. it's just hard not to think he will do what my ex did to me. i just never thought it was so hard to really move on. it took me 15yrs to let go. it's just new to me. you know figuring out how to be and stuff like that.
Re: now what... chipthecup: Wow - I feel like I am reading my story. I moved in with my boyfriend a year after my ex and I seperated. I had 2 children, and I can understand totally what you are going thru - I felt the same way. I still feel that way, and i was emotionally abused by my ex husband for years - we were married 11 years.
It is hard to move beyond those feelings and accept the new person for who he is. I can so relate to your feelings, I still wonder today if i made the right decision -
Re: now what... JNA: [quote author=vjsauce link=topic=33511.msg348037#msg348037 date=1156434951">
i do want to be with him. it's just hard not to think he will do what my ex did to me. i just never thought it was so hard to really move on. it took me 15yrs to let go. it's just new to me. you know figuring out how to be and stuff like that.
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Yeah I understand...
VJ wrote: "you know figuring out how to be and stuff like that."
It takes a time but you will figure out how to be again before his "abuse" came into your life...
So for now just learn "you" and be you
Something he never let you do ok...
Then when the next "one" comes along be sure you put him in his place if he does not treat you right
I wrote it here and it was copied here by someone...
As a Guy...
"Always walk in a room like you "own" it"
For you...
You are the "Prize" ok
Never let someone treat you badly...
If he does drop him like a Bad Habit and move onto the next
Stay Strong
JNA
