Re: Can't walk away newts: Your son is feeling your hurt and your pain that you are allowing to show due to the arse ex.
You say you don't want to get back with the ex and if that is so dam true, why in f**k sake is he getting to you the way he wants to?? That is a sign of you caring more than he does and he wants to make dam sure that he will always have a passionate and aggressive attitude to him... in his f**ked up mind it means you are still soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo still into him!!!!!
O.k. you are telling me you are scared to commit and love again.. that is the biggest load of sh*t I have ever heard, you just haven't met someone that takes your mind off your ex. This man that you are with, if he was the love of your life and so good to you and always there for you and by the sounds of it 2000 times better than your ex, however, he really is spak and that means the fillings in the wall until you can afford to fully replaster that wall and fill in the missing pieces.
NO MORE FEEL... YOUR EX IS A SACK OF SHIT AND HAS NOTHING TO OFFER YOU OR YOUR KID. GET FULL CUSTODY AND LEAVE AND NEVER LOOK BACK.
Your son doesn't need a sack of s**t influence like this in his life? Could you imagine your son growing up and treating his girlfriend or wife like this?? Well this is the influence he has at the moment " My mum is always sad, crying angry and depressed and my dad is so great because he is happy, fun and gives me whatever I want"... that is what your son is seeing through the actions you are showing through your anger, resentment, grief and plain confusion - he ain't coming back - why respond to his calls unless it's to do with your son - trust me late am calls have nothing to do with your son and why respond to his pathetic calls and emails? I need you to tell me why you do, I don't really think you can truly tell me why you do and if you can it still wont be justified - HE IS WITH A DIRTY HORE - HE WONT LEAVE HER TO BE WITH YOU AND HIS CHILD - YOU HAVE A MAN THAT HAS PUT UP WITH FAR TOO MUCH S**T! STOP TORTURING YOURSELF - HE AINT WORTH IT!!!!
Re: Can't walk away confused101: I feel sorry for the new guy. Trying to care for someone who's heart isn't even with him.
Re: Can't walk away sosad05: Feel....I know its hard. But, you have to force yourself to the "No Contact' other than exchanging you child. Why do you keep answering his calls? There is way too much emotion. He is definitely getting his cake and eating it. Here he cheated on you and is living w/ OW yet he is stringing you along by telling you he still loves you.
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He doesnt really love you either though. He doesnt love anyone. He needs to see a therapist. But, if you are done with him, that isnt your problem.
Focus on YOU and your child. Take it a day at a time...a minute at a time. You dont have to take his calls or talk to him. I know its hard. It took me a very long time to finally leave my husband so I went through a lot of this. But, I learned NO CONTACT works the best.
Re: Can't walk away newts: [quote"> I feel sorry for the new guy[/quote">
So do I, I think he must be an apostle, maybe even jesus. I wouldn't put up with this for more than a week!
Sorry Feel - I just wouldn't no matter how much I cared.
Re: Can't walk away Feel: Yes Rainking... you might think this way, why wouldn't you, especially by what all are reading!
P gets a lot from me, I am able to love again, but affraid too! It is hard to give as I once did... but when I look at him and see that I am trying, he sees it too...
I wish you guys were here to see, to hear.
I touch P, as I want to be held and touched and I do the things for him he has never had done... I take pride in seeing his smile when I cook for him and he watches me while he is sitting relaxing because of his hard day and I take pride in his smile while he is eating what I have made with not a complaint, I love seeing him play with T, and seeing my son smile and look for him, especially when my son and I come home, he runs to the door and asks if P is here! I love when I get the notes on my desk at work from P, they are so specail to me and boy do I ever have a lot of letters and notes from him. He brought out the writting in me again. I used to love buying cards for the one I love.... now he has them and getting them, someone who appreciates who I am and what I can do, and P is wanting more from me this is why he is helping me get through this.
I took what happened to me real bad and I tried to get through it on y own, and when I realized I couldn't I asked my family and friends for help and that was when I was able to meet P, because I started to see there was a life after G (X), and it brings great joy to my face when my son, P and I are at wonderland and my son wants to sit with P on the roolercoaster adn not me! That tells me of what a great man I do have... and P makes love to me like I am human, he just has to touch me and I feel his love.... I want to do the same for him! I trust him adn his judgments... but I am also scared.
Newts, I for the most part don't answer his calls! I even called the cops the other night cause he said he was coming over with his friend cops to take " the petifile out of my bed" How dare he speak of a man like that when he can't stand him for the sole purpose my son does enjoy him as I do...
I just can't handle it when my X calls and says that it's my fault, that he is with the other woman, how can it be I ask him... he has been with her well over a good part of our marriage and never left her. I don't sit on the phone and take his shit... i give it right back.... P is even there sometimes, and I make him hear me so he know I hate what he has done and I ain't going back! :'( :'(
It just re-hatches things when he says I didn't give him a chance... that kills me and when he says I didn't stick by him and want to try when he was done fucking her! THATS WHEN I LOSE IT!
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