What to expect? sel74: I am a soon to be divorced (17 weeks to go) father of two girls ages 7 and 3. My question is after hitting rock bottom with my life weeks ago with everything that is going on I have since turned the corner and look forward to becoming single again and getting on with my life.
I would like to know when/what is an appropriate time frame to start dating again. I don't want to jump in head first but I really miss the female companionship that I have been missing for a long time.
Thanks to anyone who reads this and replys to my first post on OJar.
SL
Re: What to expect? JNA: [quote author=sel74 link=topic=33524.msg347051#msg347051 date=1156298004">
I am a soon to be divorced (17 weeks to go) father of two girls ages 7 and 3. My question is after hitting rock bottom with my life weeks ago with everything that is going on I have since turned the corner and look forward to becoming single again and getting on with my life.
I would like to know when/what is an appropriate time frame to start dating again. I don't want to jump in head first but I really miss the female companionship that I have been missing for a long time.
Thanks to anyone who reads this and replys to my first post on OJar.
SL
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Me dating someone else to my Daughter was a "huge" thing at first...
So think about that first...Even though your kids do not control your life...LOL
Pre-Teens anyway...LOL
For me I guess I didn't want to make someone my "rebound" chick...
So I waited a time to heel
You can have the company of women without per se "Dating" them...
A lot of women are into that
Determine what you want and then go that route ya know...
As far as the rest
Only you can determine when the time is "right" for you to date again...
Just pay Special Attention to those Little Red Flags you find along the way
JNA
Re: What to expect? JNA: BTW...
Sel74 wrote: "What to expect"
Don't ask...
LOL
JNA
Re: What to expect? Fendann: Absolutely. If you try and jump into a relationship too quickly, it will turn out to be a horrible rebound relationship. You are the only one that can say how long is long enough, but you can't jump at the first person that talks to you. That will put you back into your downward spiral....We've all been there.
Re: What to expect? ctrlaltdelete: [quote author=sel74 link=topic=33524.msg347051#msg347051 date=1156298004"> My question is after hitting rock bottom with my life weeks ago with everything that is going on I have since turned the corner and look forward to becoming single again and getting on with my life. [/quote">
I suspect that is the case "for now". Yes, you may feel pretty good right now, but anyone on here will tell you that divorce and the whole associated process is a rollercoaster. You'll feel great and on top of the world one day (hour/week/month) and then like Hell the next day (hour/week/month).
[quote author=sel74 link=topic=33524.msg347051#msg347051 date=1156298004">
I would like to know when/what is an appropriate time frame to start dating again. I don't want to jump in head first but I really miss the female companionship that I have been missing for a long time.[/quote">
No one can really answer this but you, but from my experience, the best time to start dating is when you don't feel the "NEED" to start dating. The point of dating is not to seek out a replacement for your failed relationship, but rather to go out and have fun and meet a lot of new friends. Needy people have a tendency to drive off members of the opposite sex like repellant drives off bugs. Men and women are attracted to fun, confident people who are capable of living their own life. Just my opinion, because I don't know you at all, but I think it would be best if you concentrated on your healing process and your daughters right now. There's no hurry to run out and date right away.
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