Re: Addicted to hurting darkrose: That's why cutters do their thing. So they feel something.
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I know back in the day I would start to feel better and then I would almost look for something to fret about because without the weight of the pain, anger or hurt that I carried it took me out of what I had learned to be my comfort zone.
Now my comfort zone has shifted to where if anything hurts at all I want it out as soon as possible, and I feel good about not carrying any burdens. It wasn't that way for a long time though.
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I want to reach taht point... i need to learn how!
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Feel, your life is what you make of it and if you let your friends, family or anybody else close to you let make decisions on your behalf or influence you, well then again it's the mistakes that you have made and if you listen to anybody other than yourself you are you are your own worst enemy.
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Family, more than friends do have an influence in life... Your parents are people you can go to for guidence and stability... I don't have that thats why it's taken me longer to deal with things and move forward.
It's been over 10 years of my parents accepting a drugaddict in there home... my brother has 3 kids and a wife that struggled to help him, but they still never learn that if you don't shut the door they know what buttons to press to get you back in their grip.
I am just learing now how to close out the stuff that causes problems, heartache, hurt, anger!
I walked out on my mom yesterday... I am in need of money for my lawyer costs. I told her I won't ever ask them for a paenny anymore, because it gets thrown in my face and because how can they help a child that wants to better herself if they keep accepting my brother back in when he keeps costing them money and pain?
Do u see?
Re: Addicted to hurting chaotic: Addicted to hurting is something that I had not really thought about. The pain of divorce or breakup is something that I was happy to get out of my system. I occaisionally think back about it, but I quickly do something to get rid of the feelings it brings along.
If you like hurting
Go mountain biking....Crashing hurts, muscle burn hurts.....lactic acid and open wounds will hurt for days.
Go Rock Climbing.... You will be bruised and cut up for days, your arms and legs will be stretched in ways you did not think were possible
Get a tatoo.....The pain is actually quite good for cleansing the mind and body
Though, I have been told by coworkers, friends, and my X that they think I like pain
Re: Addicted to hurting Crystal_Blue_024: You definitely bring up a valid idea Rainking... Over the past 2 months I've gone in and out of phases like this, when I'm afraid to be happy... Afraid to be happy, because then if the ex came back, I was afraid I wouldn't want her back, and I wanted to want her back, I guess... I would go "seeking" the hurt, like the whole thing with looking at the ex's webpage, I knew it was going to hurt, but I did it anyways... Or I would listen to depressing music, just to make me feel even worse... It's amazing how our mind plays games with us...
But now, I'm getting furthur and furthur away from those self-defeating behaviors... Because I don't want to be un-happy, I don't want to cry every day... I want to be able to tell Drea to go play in traffic and then go jump off a cliff if she ever tries to come back to me... Now if I find myself in a situation that is causing negative thoughts, like songs on the radio, I change the situaton, I change the station... If I find myself "needing" to look at her webpage, I get up and go do something, to force myself away from the computer...
My controlling myself, and steering away from these hurtful situations, I'll be back to my happy-go-lucky self sooner rather than later! ;D
Re: Addicted to hurting vonmon69: There's actually a book that I have about this topic that's called "Addicted to Unhappiness" by Martha and William Pieper.
Interesting subject . . .
