Re: Here is my story gpiilani: Yeah, I am really starting to see that, I thought that if the tables were turned, I my self would want my husband to do as much as he could to make things better, but I am beginning to see that he just is not like me. He needs to work through things in his own time....but its hard when the kids no longer have a "physical" dad, he is only around most of the time "financially". To our daughter who is only 3, she wonders where her daddy is 6 days out of the week....he wont go to a counsellor, he wont even admit that his brothers death is what is bothering him at all....hes one of those men that are like "oh well, i'll just deal with it" when apparently he is NOT. I know that I need to see a counsellor as well, but I do know why I did what I did. I wanted to hurt him like he hurt me all these years with the drinking and partying and women calling his cell at 2 am....but I wasnt supposed to get mad about that because these were women he works with...like people dont have affairs with people they work with right???!!! But I dont want to point fingers here, I am a grown up, what I did was stupid, immature and not right. I tried for years to communicate my feelings to him, and I just dont feel he ever got it. Maybe thats why I am so hurt over this....I tried for so long to take the high road, not to do anything wrong, just deal with all HIS issues...and now, when I did something wrong out of desperation, he just walks away. That is what kills me.
