Former stepchildren? wendieann: After being separated for a yr...
I did attempt on several occasions to connect with xSS10 through BM. I would write letters, and mail him gifts, etc. However, Bm would never respond or return my phone calls, etc.
My 15 & 16 yr teens always have said they have lost a brother, and for their sake, I didn't see a problem in trying to connect and bring xSS10 for a visit. After all xSS10 also lost two older brothers too...
Do I give up trying to connect?
Do I keep trying, once in a while?
XSTBH would never agree to it...even though I was the one that helped "raise" xSS10...not him! (Bm knows that)
What did you do?
What do you think I should do? :-\
Re: Former stepchildren? sylvia3113: ok, first of all, what do all of your abbreviations mean????
bm?
xss10 - x stepson 10 years old?
xstbh? same as stbxh?
I have two ex-step children that I keep limited contact with independent of their father. They are older though (18 & 21) and have their own cell phones, addresses and lives. Though, their father has helped me keep contact and doesn't oppose it, so it hasn't been difficult.
Since I don't know what BM means, I'm not sure who is not responding to you or returning your phone calls. Your situation is difficult because the kid is 10 (I think). Have you been able to address your wishes to maintain contact with your ex-step son with your ex-husband?
I think at that age, without the cooperation of the kids custodial parent, you will have a difficult time. I would keep trying, though. Maybe he is at least receiving your letters and gifts and is aware that you care and are trying.
CG
Re: Former stepchildren? CDNgurl: Are you addressing your correspondance directly to your xss10? or are these items addressed to her? (curly, bm is biological mum).
I would feel really put off if my ex husband's ex wife was corresponding with my child without speaking to me first... but the situation is probably different, as she was the OW.
Yes, it is in your son's best interest to continue these relationships, but there are some boundaries you need to be aware of crossing.. ultimately, you aren't in a position to be making these decisions anymore... and for that I am sorry because it sounds like you really care for this boy.
Re: Former stepchildren? tara: In some states, stepparents (grandparents, aunts/uncles, even non family members in some cases) can petition for visitation for their former stepchildren, if it's seen to be in the child's best interests.
If your state doesn't allow that (or if you don't want to deal with more court/lawyers/etc.), perhaps your kids can contact their ex-stepbrother directly? Maybe his mother (or your ex) will be more amenable to that than to you contacting her?
