Need Advice tripny2k6: Ok, I'm not sure who's been following my story but I need some advice. My ex-fiance and I have been apart for over 3 weeks. soon after I found myself out with friends trying to smile. While doing this I proceeded to get phone numbers from several attractive and quality women. I have been talking to one nearly every day since I met her. I have been honest with all of them and have told them I just got out of a serious relationship and was hurt. When will I know it is right to break the "friends only" barrier and take the next move?? I realize I need time to heal, and I dont want to hurt anyone, but I really feel like dating. Am I trying to fill the void?
Re: Need Advice jannette Garcia: Well you'll know when you're ready when you can date someone and not compare them or think about your ex the whole time. Dont just do it to fill the void.
Re: Need Advice Crystal_Blue_024: There's no set time period of when it's right to start dating... But having said that, 3 weeks does seem pretty quick to me... You do want to make sure you're not just trying to fill a void and find a replacement... It's been over 2 months for me, and I've been out on 1-2 dates, and still find myself comparing everyone to my ex, so I know I'm not ready yet... And I don't want a re-bound fling, and I don't want to cause an innocent 3rd party pain because of my emotional baggage.... Tread lightly...
Re: Need Advice darkrose: Yes, you are trying to fill the void. That in itself isn't a bad thing, but you need to be careful to realize that you are not in a good place right now.
I caught myself feeling things for people for no real reason because I'm trying to latch on to the first thing that pays attention to me, and that's just wrong right now. I need friends around me, and I need to find myself. I'm getting out of a four year marriage right now so my situation is a bit different..but if I were you, I'd be very up front and honest with this woman, let her know that you're going through a rough time and you would like to keep it casual for a while.
Re: Need Advice tripny2k6: So do you think its ok if I am upfront with these people? Or should I force myself to be alone for awhile?
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