Re: She Filed Today niceguy: Thanks everyone, today she called to arrange the sherriff's visit. I'm relieved because I will have the opportunity to arrange a meeting with the sheriff outside of my home or workplace. That was stressing me out a little. My neighbors and for that matter my co-workers are big gossipers and I'm glad I won't have to deal with that.
[quote"> I know, I feel alone too. Very alone. But it's not true. We are not alone. WE all have people in our lives that love us. And the truth is, we do NOT need to be with some who can't see how great we are. There are so many other people out there that will think we are great[/quote">
I keep trying to tell myself this, but, on top of everything else this week, a relationship I was in ended. She is really a special person that I already miss terribly, but can't be with. Everybody will probably say, jumped in too quick...etc...etc, but still it happened and I miss her ontop of the reality or sadness of my marriage coming to a concrete end.
I know it will get better I just need to get from here to there. Thanks for listening
Re: She Filed Today achingallover: oh, man, niceguy, I"m so sorry about the relationship that ended for you this week. At this time, when we are so vulnerable and going through so much, it's hard to keep all relationships in tact. Perhaps a useful thing for you to do would be to examine what that relationship was about for you? What did it do for you? Why was it started? It's so hard right now - even with friends. I'm sorry you've got compounded pain right now. Perhaps the universe wants you to take some time to be alone and really grieve this whole divorce thing. I really HATE being alone through this, but I doubt I would be learning as much about myself if I were in another romantic relationship right now. I think that another romantic relationship might provide a false sense of security and destract me from my real work - which is dumping my co-dependant ways and learning how to have a relationship with myself - reparenting myself. Leaning how to be with myself and not feel alone or afraid. Just my 2 cents worth...but I hope it gives you another possible perspective on this situation. I feel your pain. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Please know that you are not alone in this pain and fear. We are all there with you! ;)
hugs-
Steph
Re: She Filed Today niceguy: Another divorce milestone down....I was served today. After stressing out all day knowing it was coming, it took 2 seconds and wasn't bad at all. I'm not saying I left smiling from ear to ear but I didn't have a melt down either.
I still feel awful about everything, but like everyone says at least I'm moving forward and not in limbo land. Hard to see divorce as a step forward sometimes.
Thanks everyone for the support.
