I feel like I'm slipping... big_daddy: Monday she finally said what she wanted. I accepted it.
The last 2 days have been ok. A relief, a sense of direction, more than anything. The attorney consultation helped make clear that I don't want this to get ugly.
yet this afternoon, I sit here at work...and I just keep hoping I'll wake up from this stupid dream, or maybe she'll wake up. I feel guilty for my ring not being on the right finger.
I feel like a failure, like I've given up on something I shouldn't have given up on. But I didn't give up...she did. Didn't she?
*sigh*
Re: I feel like I'm slipping... thejoker: this isn't much but it's what I got: you are experienceing completely normal feelings. The same ones I felt when my wife left and said she wanted out.
So you will survive, it will hurt like hell, but you'll get through.
Re: I feel like I'm slipping... EssieDotCom: [quote"> I feel like a failure, like I've given up on something I shouldn't have given up on. But I didn't give up...she did. Didn't she?[/quote">
I know I did feel the same way; I still fiddle around with my ring finger, somehow sub-conciously wanting the ring to be there. You tried didnt you? you did what you thought you could have done to save your marriage? I know I've done what I could, but no matter what I said or did it didnt matter to him. all that mattered is what he wanted. He gave up on us... while i was still trying. It cuts like a knife; and it makes you wonder if for better or for worse means anything to them. GIve her sometime she may come around, she may finally take a mintue to sit down and realize what has happened... and what's missing. my husband has.... I can't say weather its took late for us or not... but I will tell you one thing, I never gave up on "US" I gave it my all and I can say I never gave up on us. As long as you have that you know inside yourself that you did your best... that doesn't make you a failure. It allows you to become a stronger person on the side and out..... often times we forget that life is a test, via the hands of God. He tests us daily...
Re: I feel like I'm slipping... chaotic: [quote author=big_daddy link=topic=34010.msg353046#msg353046 date=1157056693">
Monday she finally said what she wanted. I accepted it.
The last 2 days have been ok. A relief, a sense of direction, more than anything. The attorney consultation helped make clear that I don't want this to get ugly.
yet this afternoon, I sit here at work...and I just keep hoping I'll wake up from this stupid dream, or maybe she'll wake up. I feel guilty for my ring not being on the right finger.
I feel like a failure, like I've given up on something I shouldn't have given up on. But I didn't give up...she did. Didn't she?
*sigh*
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You are not a failure. Sometimes in life it is necessary to cut your losses and live to fight another battle.
Re: I feel like I'm slipping... brielle123: Yes....she gave up, not you. There is absolutely nothing that you can do to change her feelings or her mind for that matter....and I KNOW that sux. You feel so helpless and like everything is completely beyond your control.
There is nothing wrong with the way you are feeling right now..you are entitled to YOUR feelings. Again, it just sux to have to go through the motions of the day when your mind is not where you want it to be and you don't know when you will ever get it back again.
I know what you mean about the wedding ring thing...I haven't worn mine in a little over a week and it feels SO WEIRD! I hate it, I was so used to it being on my finger, now that it isn't there I notice all the time and it is a constant reminder of my current separation and impending divorce. Stupid and probably shallow I know, but I do think about that all the time.
I hope you feel better today.....I am not looking forward to the end of the work day (did I just say that?) to go home to my empty little house.
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