Re: What Is The Secret To Not Falling When You Meet Someone New? alonewith2: [quote author=Smiley link=topic=34024.msg354555#msg354555 date=1157203204">
You have the same issues I had. The answer is to learn about yourself, and who you really are. Then learn where that void is coming from, and why you're so quick to fill it.
Usually when we have a large emotional void, and we feel insecure within ourselves, we tend to cling to someone to help us fill it, but in doing that, we cause more damage... to ourselves. Sometimes this has to happen a few times before we begin to see what the issue is, then we can work to fill that void on our own.
In doing that, we can slowly climb into healthy relationships and avoid falling too hard and too fast for the person who might not be the right one for us.
You have to do a lot of soul searching, and really take a look at the "ugly". Then you can figure out what the root cause is, and begin to repair the inner damage. Until you do that, this cycle will only continue, and possibly get worse.
At least that's how it was for me.
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I don't mean to hijack, but wanted to send Smiley some kudos. You've come a long way on your road to self discovery. I'm proud of you, girl! :-*
Sorry about that... Hijack over.. ::)
