The final chapter..for now.. darkrose: So court yesterday. Emergency custody hearing..
Had a brief chat with my stbxw that ended in a hug..not one of those "friend" hugs..but an old hug like she used to give me when we were married and stuff. I agreed to back off the original motion and draft a new one that basically gave her statutory visitation (every other weekend+ she requested Wednesdays overnight for some reason). I retained residental custody. We have to re-do the motion and make the changes we decided about based on our negotiation, but I think it did show that we're willing to negotiate and I'm willing to give up some stuff if she is too..
Everybody walked away with something and people are happy for the most part.. . My flight risk fears for her are alleviated, but I am still concerned about her ability/mental state, but she HAS seemed to have mellowed out a bit...so we'll see. Her lawyer is a jerk and actually openly mocked me in front of the judge (which pissed the judge off), her dad doesn't want to drag this out, her mom wants me to live in a cardboard box. Her mom is furious that she didn't demand full custody with no visitation from me. Her mother is all that is evil, a man-hating she-devil if I've ever seen one.
My stbxw "doesn't want to hurt [me"> any more than [she"> already has" and "[she"> wants [me"> to be happy." She also wants this over with. She claims she's going to live alone..but she does have the OM thing going on this weekend and lied RIGHT TO MY FACE about it. I'm fairly certain she knows I know about it, but she still denies it.
And I think she's starting to regret now, because she answered the phone for me while I was busy trying to get my son ready for bed.. and it was a woman I'm interested in calling to see how the custody hearing went..and my stbxw doesn't really like this woman because..well, my stbxw thinks this woman is more attractive than she is (and she's right..muhahahaha)..and we had become close at one point..she began to not trust me around this woman (whatever).. So yeah, I got a little bit of attitude from her for the 20 more minutes she was around..
She left ME, so I don't see where she has any right to be jealous of what I'm doing (which is nothing at the moment other than talking. The woman in question has displayed a little interest, but knows the best thing for *ME* right now is to heal and lend me her ear)..But I do feel it's a little victory on my part..because she may think I'm setting myself up to move on..
So that's where we are now. We're going to try to negotiate a settlement next week. Property division is going to be fairly easy, she's already got most of her stuff out that she wants. I even got back some of the jewelry I gave her..which kind of made me sad..but I'm going to give it to someone who deserves it one day.. :)
I'm starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I'm getting my paperwork in order to get some financial aid to go back to school..don't know EXACTLY what I want to do yet, but I'll figure it out by the time I go back..
