Re: how can two people getting divorced have such great sex? Whirlpool: [quote author=Magenta Bella link=topic=34093.msg354855#msg354855 date=1157285723">
Spent the entire last few nights lost and crying and having my best friend tell me to close the door again - but I can't. What if sleeping with him will bring him home????
I know - he can't have his cake and eat it too and by sleeping with him I'm serving him his cake on a silver platter.
But, what if.....
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That is exactly the kind of thinking that promotes the advice that says DO NOT do it. If sex did not make him stay before it will sure as hell not bring him back now. Sex can be solely a physical thing, does not need emotion to be enjoyed which could be where he is at. Respect yourself Bella and don't give him anymore, what he did was insulting. First of all he should not have let you know he took condoms, second he should not have said that to you. Maintain some dignity and cut him off no matter how much it hurts. I know you want to hold on to hope but there comes a time when you have to choose at the fork in the road. Start working on you.
Re: how can two people getting divorced have such great sex? trapped: [quote author=Magenta Bella link=topic=34093.msg354855#msg354855 date=1157285723">
Then, Thursday morning when he left he brought his rubbers with him, I asked him why and he said
"Well, Bella, ya never know"
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So incredibly cold and heartless of him to say and do that. Find it in yourself to stop doing the backslide hun. Take it from someone who slipped back to her ex countless times...too many to remember. It still ended all the same but took that much longer and just prolonged the impossibly painful outcome. It was just more years of my life spent with someone who already had one foot out the door long before.
You cant use sex as a bargaining chip....it doesnt work that way. Sorry you are going through this whole mess but try to preserve yourself. I know its so hard, you just want that connection, youre desperate for it.....but try to stay strong. Hugs to both of you.
Ps- Why is this thread on two different parts of the board?!
Re: how can two people getting divorced have such great sex? guest233: There is another aspect that no one has said yet on this matter. If you are trying to sue for divorce on grounds of adultery or any other type of abuse ect.... Your case could be tossed for having sex with them. This is something to consider. I put myself in a position to never be seen with her or another woman alone to protect my case against her. My ex is capable of doing anything to make herself look better in the courts eyes, and that would include trying to get me into bed.
Re: how can two people getting divorced have such great sex? Magenta Bella: [quote author=WingNuts link=topic=34093.msg354971#msg354971 date=1157305711">
There is another aspect that no one has said yet on this matter. If you are trying to sue for divorce on grounds of adultery [/quote">
I don't think I can do that here, my lawyer told me it doesn't work like that. Too bad, besides, I lost the anger about it a long time ago. I don't want to revisit lawyers, courts blah blah blah...
I have to pay for everything anyways.
I know I know - close the door. Yes Shortie (my best friend, who made me write out "The door is closed" 200x AGAIN last night (we're now at 600 x for this exercise). Her name is Shortie.
Respect myself.
Don't give him his cake, he needs to grow up.
I miss him so much.............................
Re: how can two people getting divorced have such great sex? Mooneyes: I think the sex is so good, because you are capable of being extremely intimate with her and because you know each others buttons.
I had great sex with my ex too for awhile after we split up. Off and on for a year. It delayed the divorce, because I got confused, as to whether or not we were getting back together. Although I now know it wasn't because he didn't desire me in bed (it's just he doesn't desire a wife. :( )
This topic comes up from time to time, and you might look for some of the threads. Which all advise the same thing.. don't do it.. even if you are horny.
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