Re: Am I Not Ready? guest233: [quote author=SuperChick link=topic=34105.msg354604#msg354604 date=1157215931">
Mom and TS:
It's like a 'trial and error' thing. You will both likely try it (again- in your case -TS). [/quote">
Yes, this time I will go out, as I said, to have fun, nothing more. I am not looking for a relationship anymore. I have been hurt already by some people because of their rebounding tendencies. Them discovering for their self what they want. Not again will I let another person hurt me. Sadly, I hope my new attitude that I have does not possibly destroy what could be. I'm now in a good solid state of mind, know what I want and am going to enjoy it.
[quote author=SuperChick link=topic=34105.msg354604#msg354604 date=1157215931">
This is a chance to start over. Hopefully you guys will come to this realization, but for everyone, it comes at different times :).
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Yes, I agree. It does come at different times. Mine came to me just this week. Not to long after the post I made about jumping into a relationship. I finally asked myself, “Why am I jumping so fast”. I thought about it, dealt with it, and now this completely new perspective on what I want for my life has evolved. I want me now. I want my life. I want to live as if I am dieing and have fun doing it. I want to jump out of an airplane from above the clouds. Hell, I want to BASE jump off a bridge. I want to go to the drag strip and punch it, not just once but as many times as I can. I want to learn to fly a plane and scale a tall mountain. All of the things I have wanted to do in my past and have not been able too because of the restrictions that I put on myself. To hell with restrictions. All of this will come in due time though, which is a great thing to me.
However, I do have a date tonight, and I am going to try out my new perspective on life and dating. I just hope I do not come off as an as*hole. The cool thing is I am not looking for a relationship anymore or even a partner. I am just looking to enjoy my evening and maybe make a new friend.
Re: Am I Not Ready? superwife: [quote author=TimeStamp link=topic=34105.msg354617#msg354617 date=1157218461">
I have been hurt already by some people because of their rebounding tendencies. Them discovering for their self what they want
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Their rebounding tendencies?? I'd hardly call discovering what one wants rebounding. That's what we all should be doing, so we don't end up on ojar again!!
Re: Am I Not Ready? Whirlpool: I think saying everyone can do this at different times is fine, but just the same she should not be thinking something is wrong because she is still not ok after 9 weeks.
Re: Am I Not Ready? guest233: [quote author=SuperChick link=topic=34105.msg354632#msg354632 date=1157222666">
[quote author=TimeStamp link=topic=34105.msg354617#msg354617 date=1157218461">
I have been hurt already by some people because of their rebounding tendencies. Them discovering for their self what they want
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Their rebounding tendencies?? I'd hardly call discovering what one wants rebounding. That's what we all should be doing, so we don't end up on ojar again!!
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Yes, discovering what one wants is a good thing. Trial and error is involved with that. There is a line that should not be crossed when trying to find out what one wants though. Crossing that line is dangerous and gives people the wrong signals. Communication and acceptance by both parties is the key, and I was one of those jumpers that did not listen to what the other person was saying. Never again will it happen. I am no longer looking for someone to fill a void or to fall in love with. That is over. Tonight I will go out with my head held high, confident in myself, knowing that I do not have to fall for this person in order to make myself happy.
Re: Am I Not Ready? guest233: [quote author=Whirlpool link=topic=34105.msg354642#msg354642 date=1157225273">
I think saying everyone can do this at different times is fine, but just the same she should not be thinking something is wrong because she is still not ok after 9 weeks.
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I agree, for myself, it took atleast 9 months. Which is were I started going out again. However, I was still not ready. Just read my last post and it spelled out for yor.
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