Could use a boost of encouragement- hard afternoon

Could use a boost of encouragement- hard afternoon faraday: Today is hard and I am not exactly sure why- I am a week into this and it feels like a year- today I miss him- the way he smiles, the way he smells- do you ever forget that? How he breathes, how he sleeps and looks like a little boy- the sound of his voice- how he walks- his arms

This feeling is going to drown me if I can't get a handle on it- help!
Re: Could use a boost of encouragement- hard afternoon Lorimommy3: God hun I know that feeling ((((hugs)))) And let me just say, that you will literally drown yourself if you don't get ahold of yourself. You have a choice.. SINK OR SWIM,,,,, No one wants to sink....
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It seems that I have to come to the point that you are at before I can snap myself out of it.. most people just have to hover near rock bottom.. I have to bounce off of it a couple of times and then I start to snap out of it..

Just look at this pain as a necessary evil at this point. You have to experience this pain before you can move on.

I'm sorry I wish there was something more I could say.. I know where you are at and I feel your pain ((((hugs))))) LM3

Re: Could use a boost of encouragement- hard afternoon Fendann: Big hugs to you, faraday! I have been there before. When my stbx started considering me 'her roommate' rather than her husband, I would sit and cry myself to sleep on the sofa just thinking about every one of those things. I can tell you that it DOES get better, and you will forget those things. As screwed up as I am, I know it gets better....

(((((HUGS)))))

Re: Could use a boost of encouragement- hard afternoon brielle123: I know exactly how you feel. My STBXH has been moved out for almost two weeks, and I haven't had any contact with him in about five days...I miss him terribly, all the same things as you. His smell, smile, laugh, certain expressions, I could go on forever.

What helps me when I start to think about those things I miss, is I try to think about everything that I couldn't stand about him...the way he talked to me, how I felt like I was always bothering him, his temper, how he treated me like a naive little child, didn't help me with ANY of the household duties, his selfish attitude, living in a lonely marriage...etc, etc. Try writing it down so when you do feel this way...you actually have it on paper to look at as a reminder.

I know it's hard...and that might not even help you, but I think that it is worth a try. I hope you feel more like yourself soon...and you will, just hang in there :)

Re: Could use a boost of encouragement- hard afternoon faraday: thank you guys so much

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