negative/positive attitude shpek: Ojars,
Would like some input on this.
I know that when you are in a positive mood - you usually attract postive energy etc.
And when in a negative frame of mind, the same goes...
Well, it's been 2 months for me since my X bailed... I've been told i'm getting a little better even though it doesnt feel like it all that much, but i'm trying. It's not as much about "her" but but being dissed like i was and feeling lonley and empty.
So, i'm not at my happy place, back to me yet. I'm trying... reading books, talking here, therapy etc... Well, I know I still have negative thoughts, sometimes feel hopeless, feeling lost etc. all that. Is it the fact that I am still recovering and need more time. That I WILL get better and back to my normal happy self? I feel like I want to be there already but honestly I'm not.
So in my mind i know it's better to think positve, be happy now - all that. I'm just not there yet but am trying very hard. I'm just looking for some insight and maybe some of you know where Im coming from and can offer me some advice.
Thanks so much!
Re: negative/positive attitude fkunone: Shpek. I believe in it. It may seem coincidental, but as you truly make an effort to surrender your negative thoughts and energies to a greater flow that's in you, you'll find that things start to work out for you easier. Sure, it takes effort on your part, but then again, it wouldn't be living if it didn't.
Fear not as to what you see, place faith in what you believe.
Re: negative/positive attitude yella: Negativity is a tough thing to shake, and unfortunately it can take a ton of time for it to go away. It took me more than 3 years, and an ocean load of soul searching. :-\
Trauma is trauma, and sometimes you literally have to change your entire life in order to significantly reduce the effects of it. You do what you can, but the negativity will most likely be there for quite some time, however, it's how you react to it that matters.
If you go around throwing it out there and being negative to all, you'll never shake it, but if you try to suppress it, you'll be stuck with it too. So, what do you do? Exactly what you're doing now. Continue to work on it, and never lose sight of whatever goal you have set. Talk, write, workout, find friends, and have fun. Work with it, not against it. ;)
Re: negative/positive attitude shpek: Juggernaut,
I believe in that too. I guess i'm finding it hard to be positve when I still feel crappy/hurt/rejected and all that. It's like i'm wanting to be better but still am feeling the loss of having someone in my life and with no closure either.
Re: negative/positive attitude Fendann: The road to recovery is very long and twisted....it DOES take time, and you will go through the entire gambit of emotions, then back again.
Been there, done that...You WILL get better, you WILL recover, and you WILL get over your loss. Positive thoughts, that's all I can say....
Blessed Be....
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