I'm tired mariher: I don't want to be mean or selfish but he should not stay at my house when he comes to see our daughter. What makes him think that it's going to a comfortable situation sitting there in my living room when we broke up just a few months ago? He absolutely should not be here in my house playing with our daughter acting like everything is okay between us and we're friends. Ummmm, I don't think so. I really don't. And it just pissed me off really bad. I didn't yell at him to get the hell out or anything like that, but I wanted to. Then he acts like he doesn't want to leave, i had to make up some stupid BS excuse for him to leave. He was at my house for like 3 hours!!! We just broke up, I don't think he should be in my home for 3 hours. Am I being selfish or am I making sense here?
This shit is too fucking difficult!!!! >:(
Re: I'm tired Plucky: My ex did this for a while after we split because he was floating between places to live at the time. I used the time to go run errands or have a night out. Would you be comfortable doing that?
Re: I'm tired mariher: That's exactly what it is. He's in between moving and finding his own place. And I get that that's the reason why he was at my place with the baby. I honestly don't feel comfortable letting him stay at my house with my daughter while I'm running an errand or what not. I'd rather do these things without him being in my apartment. I think he feels like we still might have a chance so he's stalling on trying to find a place to live for himself and that thought really aggravates me because it's definitely over and he's trying to manipulate the situation in that case. I'm overly frustrated with him at this point.
what's even more upsetting is that when my daughter is with her grandmother he doesn't bother going to my mom's to see the baby, but he's more than willing to come to my house when I'm home with the baby, that's what makes me think he's trying to see if there's still a chance.
Re: I'm tired DarrenB: Would you rather tell him you do not want him around the house, and then he decide to not see the kid at all? Do what is in the child's best interest and eat your pride for a couple of months until he gets a place of his own. You can still make it clear to him that he does not have a chance at getting back together with you.
Re: I'm tired PennyLane: Fluffys got a point. I'd rather my ex see my kid at my house rather then take her to a bachelor pad. (I actually went through this a yr and 1/2 ago and it made me sick)
I soon suggested that he take her out and do "something" with her rather then tie up my "me" time in my home. They could do movie/ dinner/ park.
I completely understand where you're coming from mari
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