Re: Replaced and Forgotten shpek: gabefredrick,
i understand where you're coming from. i'm 36 and my x was 26. like your x, she was with the same guy from college and moved to this state with him from that. i met her while she was still living in his house. this was probably not a good choice on my part but she only existed there and they stayed away from each other. my point is she doesnt know how to be on her own, she doesnt know herself either. she was not in a place to get involved with anyone to begin with so she ran away. i'm left holding the peices of my heart and trying to build my life back again.
i understand your pain and everything you are feeling. keep talking to friends and family, go to therapy, read... all that. nothing takes it all away immediately but only time. i too wonder if i'll ever feel that way for someone etc. but li have to agree with dig_daddy - "You didn't LOSE HER....she LEFT YOU." That's what happened to me as well. So if they left, it wasnt meant to be. As much hope as we had and no matter how much it seemed to be so, it wasn't. That's not the person who we are to spend the rest of our life with. We need someone who truely knows they want to be with us through think and thin.
i hope some of this makes sense. We all understand and are going through the same thing in many ways.
PM me anytime.
Re: Replaced and Forgotten shane: i hear you brother....i have been going through the same feeling for the last two years. I lost my girl and she has been with several men after me and to no success. She still enjoys life without me and doesnt see us together. This girl was and for some reason is my everything. My world is empty without her, nothing is enjoyable. We were truly the definition of soul mates. We were the exact same and she was my best friend. So yeah some of us do have the love you had, trust me. we were together 8 years and it never got old to me. We made love several times a day, everyday for eight years and it never got boring. I dont know what happened, she just said she cant see us together raising a family. Im young, very good looking, successful and mature beyond my years. Some things in life are not explainable and i guess better left alone. I live now not in sorrow, but wanting to be better in light of my loss. In fact, her actions only drive me forward now. Its never the same without them, but we must go on. Show her what your made of, do everything you ever wanted to, show yourself. And please extinguish all communication with her. Its not healthy for you. Shell keep you on a string forever with no remorse and youll never get her back. Believe me.
Re: Replaced and Forgotten Alma: Hi, I am new here, am going through similar stuff. It is amazing how much it can feel like physical pain. Trying to maintain some positivity, what do you think about the following theory? Perhaps it is an ability to fall completely in love, to allow yourself to feel this overwhelming connection with another person. This ability doesn't go away when a partner leaves. It makes it really hurt, though. And it may mean that if you just allow for it, you'll have the ability to feel that way with another person. There are so many wonderful people out there. It's easier for me to preach to you guys than to convince myself, but still... Life hands us shit sometime - let's get through this together.
