Re: what about YOU turns people off? 2be: I'm a pleaser. And that has been interpreted in the past as me being too much of a doormat. Things like: "You need to stand up and tell me NO every once in a while." has been said by a few different women.
My point, which was never understood... is that I REALLY DON'T CARE what we do...I just want to spend time with you. If I REALLY don't want Chinese, then I'll tell you but the vast majority of the time I truly dont care.
Sometimes I wonder if it truly is them wanting my opinion (which I am happy to give) or rather they just want someone to argue and debate. Some people just WANT that pushback, even over stupid, trivial things.
Re: what about YOU turns people off? kitkat: Hrmnn well I'll keep it to aspects of my personality/behavior...since looks are so subjective.
I have a goofy/warped/sarcastic sense of humor that some can't take
I can go on intense nerdy tears about certain subjects
I'm a very touchy person but that doesn't mean I'm putting out ::)
I tend to be too straight forward and open
Re: what about YOU turns people off? sosad05: [quote"> My shyness comes off as aloofness.
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I have this problem too. People who have later gotten to know me say they thought I was a snob at first. I have never been one of those people surrounded by lots of friends. I usually only have a close 2 or 3.
Re: what about YOU turns people off? Lumpy: [quote author=Tarheel link=topic=34518.msg360102#msg360102 date=1158022950">
My shyness comes off as aloofness.
I don't know how to fix that.
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I get the same thing. I like Alpha-Bits suggestion. You can be friendly without being verbal.
Re: what about YOU turns people off? Lumpy: [quote author=kitkat link=topic=34518.msg360130#msg360130 date=1158027699">
Hrmnn well I'll keep it to aspects of my personality/behavior...since looks are so subjective.
I'm a very touchy person but that doesn't mean I'm putting out ::)
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I'm so put out! Call me touchy...
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