another day in this wonderful world... tripny2k6: Another day and I'm still here, back in my wonderful office. Last night I had another dream about my ex. We used to wake up in the middle of the night and just start talking to each other. i had a dream that we were doing that. I miss her so horribly but there is no chance that I will ever have her back in my life now.
I guess for some of us, we took for granted all of the little things that we had with our SO. I am now finding myself thinking of those little things constantly, and it is haunting me. I have always heard that what doesnt kill us makes us stronger. Its been 5 weeks and this seems to be making me weaker. I love her so much, I dont think that I can ever love anyone else that much. How do you go one with that hovering in your mind?
:'( :'(
Re: another day in this wonderful world... So_Lost: Hey bud... it will take a lot longer then 5 weeks. I would say in 6 months you will start to feel better. I think that whole statement "What doesnt kill us, makes us stronger" is a bunch of crap.. It should be "What doesnt kill us, makes it hurt less the next time because we already know life sucks the big one"
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Hey bud... it will take a lot longer then 5 weeks. I would say in 6 months you will start to feel better. I think that whole statement "What doesnt kill us, makes us stronger" is a bunch of crap.. It should be "What doesnt kill us, makes it hurt less the next time because we already know life sucks the big one"
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It makes it hurt less because pain is weakness leaving the body. When our weakness leaves the body, we become stronger. So next time its not that we know life sucks that makes it hurt less, we have just become a little more resiliant to the blows life gives us.
Re: another day in this wonderful world... brielle123: My mind f$cks with me too sometimes trip. I can remember a time when my STBXH and I were dating and he out of the blue broke up with me (that should have been my first sign not to ever marry him, huh?) and I was brokenhearted and going to bed crying, all the typical feelings of grief. Well needless to say I was torn up and I had a dream that we got married, on the beach just like I wanted, and I felt soooo happy.
When I woke up alone and reality slapped me in the face, it felt like such a major setback....I just kept thinking about what could have been, what we had and how much I wanted to be with him. It was hard, but I eventually moved on...and just as soon as I did he wanted to get back together. So we did, and then here it is over five years later and he did the same thing to me again...abandoned me and left me to pick up the pieces of my life without him. This time we are married so it makes it that much harder to understand him.
I guess all I am trying to say is that even if you could work things out and get back together, chances are she will do the same thing to you again. People like her and my STBXH don't change, as much as we love them, they will continue to live their lives selfishly, continually hurting the ones that that love them the most.
I don't know if that helps, but I just wanted to express my understanding for where you are at right now. I know you want to stop hurting, but you have to start healing first and unfortunately there is no true way to speed up this lengthy process. You will start to have better days, but when you have the bad ones just know that it is ok to feel that way, it sux, but it is ok. You gave her all of yourself, and it is going to take some time before you can get all of you back from her....Take care...I hope you feel better :)
Re: another day in this wonderful world... tripny2k6: Thank you so much for that Brielle123.
Its so ironic that the people who care the most are always the ones that get hurt so bad. I guess its because the others dont care anyway??
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