Re: another day in this wonderful world... shpek: tripny2k6,
I couldnt agree more. People say in a relationship there's always one person who gives more than the other. Is that true u think? I dunno, but if we are caring people thats a good thing i think, with the right person.
I dont know how someone could just walk away though. Maybe they never allowed themself to really open up and care deeply...
Re: another day in this wonderful world... mariher: Throughout my 10 year relationship the aspect of one person giving more than the other (I think) weighed more heavily on me. Into my first 2 years with my now X I suffered through alot of verbal abuse and emotional abuse. With all that, I never left him and I hung onto him even more. I always made the attempt to try to smooth his feathers and calm him down. I even dealt with the fact that he cheated on me. All of this in our first 2 years together. Oh but the throughout the years it got even better. The abuse turned physical, he cheated on me with one of my friends, he was always pushing me away that he needed space and then he'd curse me out for giving it to him, etc... So now, 10 years later we have a daughter together, we're broken up, he's living in an apartment with 5 other people, and he isn't even trying to find his own place. He wants to see our daughter at my house, spend like 4 hours there with her, and make me miserable. When does the making HIM feel better end? I'm making so many sacrifices for him, past and present. When is he going to do that for me?
I have to say I have been the one in this relationship to have given my ALL.
Re: another day in this wonderful world... tripny2k6: Actually, I read a post on here earlier in the month that they just walk away because they stayed while they had their mind made up, mourned the loss and just leave. I had a feeling that was happening with me. I asked her all the time if everything was alright and of course she said yes, but I could see the difference in her.
Sad stuff.
Re: another day in this wonderful world... tripny2k6: It sounds like you have given your all and then some. Very unfortunate. sorry that you have to be here posting your story. :-(
Re: another day in this wonderful world... mariher: [quote author=tripny2k6 link=topic=34533.msg360324#msg360324 date=1158074454">
Actually, I read a post on here earlier in the month that they just walk away because they stayed while they had their mind made up, mourned the loss and just leave.
[/quote"> I think that's what happened to me. I got so fed up with the sadness and fighting that I was done from one day to the next my mind was made up to leave him.
Trip: I know this is difficult. Feeling the pain and the dreams that you have at night. I used to feel that way too. It becomes so embedded. I know how you feel. PM anytime if you ever want to talk, i'm here.
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