Re: Do they all come back one day? ctrlaltdelete: Three years now and I don't think he's ever wanted to come back, which I good because I'd never take him back in a million years. However, I have detected that he has had some regrets. Haven't we all?
Re: Do they all come back one day? big_daddy: She left once before....and she came back...
She'll come back again, I have no doubt. But this time...I'm going to respect myself enough to accept the fact the she is not what my heart deserves.
Re: Do they all come back one day? sadconfused4: Have you heard this quote? :
Distance does for love what oxygen does for a flame....it extinguishes the weak and makes the strong burn brighter.
I think that's really true. My ex and I have been broken up for 2 months now. I have realized (on and off, of course.) that what I miss about him...what I LOVED...wasn't HIM so much as it was what the relationship represented, you know? I don't know where HE is....but the bottom line is, he has so many problems that if he ever comes back around....I really hope that I have the self-respect to say "NO."
I was in therapy yesterday and I said, "He broke his hand two times before we were together because he got so angry he punched a wall." and my therapist was like...."Um....that's a sign of a VERY troubled person. You don't want anything to do with him".
SO...who cares if he comes back or not. The flame that's still burning bright for me is a flame that really isn't him at ALL. It's a flame that I wanted him to be. Sigh. How many times do we need to hear it-- YOU CAN'T CHANGE PEOPLE. OR HELP THEM. OR FIX THEM. Eew. Eew, eew, my heart hurts so bad.
Re: Do they all come back one day? tygerseye04: Well I suppose I am the only leaver posting on here. I left my bf of nine months, though I didn't want to, and didn't contact him until recently. I nearly had a break down. Was strong for nine months and then felt the need to talk...I didn't want to get back together with him and still don't, but I feel like I have lost my best friend, and I still would like to have him in my life...
I've realized of course, (and rather quickly) when he didn't respond, that that's clearly not possible. Plus he's proud, I know he would never contact me. I suppose I feel that he pretty much made me leave, while he is just angry at me that I left...
Anyway. So that's that.
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Re: Do they all come back one day? sosad05: I was also the leaver. It was such a disaster of a relationship and joke of a marriage. A marriage full of lies, deceit, and manipulation.
A part of me will always love him. We had a lot of "firsts" together. I was with him since high school.
However, we are two entirely different people today and we nearly destroyed each other. So, I will NEVER go back. He will NEVER even know that I had the pain/sadness that I did over leaving him. In his eyes, I left and never looked back.
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