Re: Paronia or Reality - your mate checking out others. Your thoughts, please. big_daddy: Quite honestly, I'm not sure it is always possible to not look. We see beautiful things, we look at them. We see a nice car, we look at it. We see football on the TV in the store we are walking through, we look at it. We see a beautiful woman, we look at her.
The difference though is, I may go test drive a car like the one I saw. I may go buy tickets to the next football game. I'm not going to go any further than an admiring glance with the woman. There is a very distinct difference.
When I'm in a relationship, my significant other is just as it says, significant. The woman who caught me eye, she is just an "other", there is no significance there at all.
This is all in assumption that other aspects of the relationship are healthy of course, because in order for the trust and respect to be there in order for this understanding to work....it has to be.
Re: Paronia or Reality - your mate checking out others. Your thoughts, please. BigSky: All guys look at porn, it's just the way we are. If you say you don't you're probably not being very honest.
Guys just look, same as above.
Re: Paronia or Reality - your mate checking out others. Your thoughts, please. Fendann: [quote author=Narcissist link=topic=34560.msg360742#msg360742 date=1158099396">
All guys look at porn, it's just the way we are. If you say you don't you're probably not being very honest.
Guys just look, same as above.
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Well, I can seriously say that I've watched only two pr0n movies in my entire life....neither of which I can say was very interesting....though we do use racey cards to play poker with on bowling night, so I can kinda agree with you there, Narc....
Regardless, Spike is right, in my humble opinion...It's ok to look, but not oggle. There is a big difference between glancing at a beautiful woman walking by than staring at the woman with her tight shirt and short skirt....boobs hangin out....nips showing through her shirt.....Man, I need another shower....
Re: Paronia or Reality - your mate checking out others. Your thoughts, please. katelyn: CB -
I think you should listen to the one nice guy here - that if your man truly cared about you he would not choose to disrespect you like that, and he wouldn't blame you for being uncomfortable with his choice.
Doesn't matter what "all guys" do or do not do. That line is simply a way for guys to cop out anyway. Responsible, grown up men don't use terms of this manner. It's like a child saying "All the other kids are doing it." ::)
HURTING you either matters or it doesn't matter. Bottom fckn line.
Re: Paronia or Reality - your mate checking out others. Your thoughts, please. Spike: It's right here JNA. On Micheals OTHER board!!!!!
Quit making me out as a bad guy.
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