Re: Paronia or Reality - your mate checking out others. Your thoughts, please. Harold: [quote author=katelyn link=topic=34561.msg361499#msg361499 date=1158176833">
Get over yourself.
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That's the best you've got?! ;D
In case you haven't noticed we live in an image obsessed society and men are no different from women in that respect. The big difference is that most men don't consider every glance at anyone or anything to be something of a sexual nature whereas some women, not all only the ones that are seriously bent out of shape, do. I think it's pretty obvious which slice of that pie you squatt in.
Relationships can endure and work past almost any sort of difference or misunderstanding if there is honest, mutual communication and caring. But if either part of a serious relationship is so neurotic they need to constantly scrutinize their spouses glances it is doomed from the beginning.
Re: Paronia or Reality - your mate checking out others. Your thoughts, please. katelyn: You're not even paying attention to the issue. You obviously just enjoy hearing yourself talk. I don't feel like wasting my breath spelling it out and drawing pictures. So yeah - that's all I got.
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Re: Paronia or Reality - your mate checking out others. Your thoughts, please. Harold: [quote author=katelyn link=topic=34561.msg361661#msg361661 date=1158182851">
You're not even paying attention to the issue. You obviously just enjoy hearing yourself talk. I don't feel like wasting my breath spelling it out and drawing pictures. So yeah - that's all I got.
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The issue is very simple but if necessary I'll spell it out for you:
"The main issue with him though is that since the beginning, I have caught him staring at girls when we are together..."
My comments have been directly aimed at this issue rather than making gross overgeneralized and inaccurate snipes about "typical guy" like some badly bent sexist. However if you would rather deal with your sexist ego problem I might fit you in for a session provided you realize it could take several years of intensive psychotropic therapy to correct that sort of delusional personality disorder. Perhaps your girlfriend might be able to offer something more immediately gratifying! ;)
Re: Paronia or Reality - your mate checking out others. Your thoughts, please. katelyn: Not worth even addressing. You're a joke.
Re: Paronia or Reality - your mate checking out others. Your thoughts, please. Mr Nice Guy: I'm going through something marginally similar. My wife cheated on me, and in my new relationship it's hard to be comfortable in situations where I may get jealous or think she's talking/flirting with guys too much.
The truth is though, in both situations, our ex and our new person are totally different people. Don't assume more than what's really there. Sometimes guys just need to look at porn... it can get unhealthy when it takes away from the guys' sexual interest in his woman, but from time to time it's okay in my opinion.
As for checking out other girls... well, you could always join in! Sometimes it's fun when a couple can both oogle over the same girl, and even laugh about it. Might even strengthen your relationship or make him feel more attracted to you for being "attracted" to another girl.
In my opinion, you getting worried about all that would be about the same as your man worrying about you looking too nice and other guys checking YOU out. All in all it's a silly thing to worry about.
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