Damn those dreams! Balist: I feel that I have been doing so good and then bam, I had this vivid dream/nightmare last night. Some of you may be familiar with my story, which I posted here a few weeks ago. In my dream, my stbxw attempts to reconcile but it is only a trick because she is now engaged to the OM and wanted to rub it in.
I woke up from that in the middle of the night and since then, I just haven't been able to shake it and I can arleady tell that my day is lost. I worked out this morning and heading to work but my mind is so screwed up right now.
My latest update is that my wife is using a lawyer to get some more items from the house. She keeps changing her mind and wanting more things and I am so done with this crap.
Re: Damn those dreams! tripny2k6: I know exactly how you feel man. I get going so good then I have a dream about something that we did together. A couple of weeks ago I woke up in the middle of the night and had rolled my back over onto a blanket. I got scared for a second because I thought I rolled over onto her. Really sucks when the reality sets in. Im sorry youre going through this.
Re: Damn those dreams! Balist: It's that moment when reality hits that is the most difficult.
Thanks for the support, trip. Hopefully we can both come out of this ok.
Re: Damn those dreams! hr: It took me days to be able to sleep. I don't think mine were dreams, but more like conscience thoughts. It took weeks after my husband left. I would get out of bed in the morning and the thoughts and the horrible feelings would stay with me for hours afterwards. The nice thing is that they passed. I don't have that happen very often anymore and normally I can occupy myself with other things to make them go away faster. I feel for you very much because they suck. In time they will go away and who knows what will occupy your dreams. Its yours for the taking.
Re: Damn those dreams! Cerebral_Belle: Hi,
It is very difficult getting out of the frame of mind that you are no longer with the person. It is especially difficult for you now as you are still in the process of legal proceedings, and therefore don't have even legal closure. But don't worry, the dreams and thoughts will stop. It will just take time. First, I got legal closure as quickly as possible, and then emotional closure took about 3 years. Ironically, we were married for 3 1/2 years. I didn't have much emotional suppport like this group though, so it is good that you are expressing your feelings. It is very important to do so. I would cry until I was exhausted and somtimes couldn't breath and then go to sleep for months. I dreamt him even years later. It has been 4 years now, and though a thought of him pops up still sometimes, I am able to dismiss it and not let it affect me deeply. If you are feeling overwhelmed, talk to someone like on this board, or just hang with someone that cares about you, like a friend or family member. Their companionship will help. Also, try and do things that make you happy, like reading, movies, etc. This will help you feel better about yourself and life. My heart goes out to you. Times will get better.
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