Re: For the Fathers Out there.... cheatedonagain: He is a completely different person. No longer has a home of his own b/c he lives in her house with her kids, has bad credit, doesn't pay his bills, hasn't paid his car payment in three months, doesn't see his kids when he can, support is taken right out of his check but he still has to pay for medical expenses and daycare but he hasn't paid he says he doesn't have the money...he acts like since he doesn't have the money I should just keep paying for it as if we were married...I shouldn't have to cover HIS expenses!
Re: For the Fathers Out there.... sparks: I wonder the same thing. My ex moved out of the country to live with his girlfriend. He communicates with his kids through internet and cell phone. I feel for my kids because I think they need their dad but he's too busy. He use to be an incredible dad.
I have decided to raise my kids, without him, the best way that I can. My kids know that I am there for them no matter what. In the long run, when my kids are older, they will look back and see mom in their memories. When they talk to friends about their families, they will talk about how good mom was to them and how she raised them all by herself. I may have to wait 10-15 years but I will get my reward. What will he have? Two kids that dont trust him and couldnt care less if he was around.
It takes a long time but in the end we will be rewarded for our hard work and our commitment to our children. And he will be left behind a lonely old man.
Re: For the Fathers Out there.... trying to cope in Ky: How can a father be ok with treating their own flesh and blood like that?!?! I wouldn't be able to live without seeing my kids every day let alone hurting them over and over again. I truly feel he put himself and the OW (and her kids) before his own!
I know how that feels. My ex doesn't have anything to do with his boys even when he has days off. He spends more time with his new woman and her little girl. We had it out the other day but the doesn't see that he is doing it. Pretty sad when my BF from afar off speaks to them more than their own father. Wish he would see what he is doing to them. My 3 yr old cries for his daddy but that doesn't matter to him I dont guess. :-\ It seems men like the time to try and make them but to take care of them is so hard for them. What is it with men and RESPONSIBLITY?
Sorry you and your children are going through this. Really sucks I know.
confused in ky
Re: For the Fathers Out there.... big_daddy: Quite simply....I couldn't.
My children are the reason that I breathe.
My oldest daughter's birth mother walked out of our life when she was only 3 months old. I don't understand to this day how she lives with that.
Re: For the Fathers Out there.... darkrose: I can't. Which is why I have an emergency custody order, and I'll probably be getting primary/residental custody of my son when the divorce is final. When everything went down, my parents took the lad out of town for a week or so to get him out of the situation because he didn't need to be in the ugly that we had thought would go down (but didn't).. I missed him terribly during that time and I think it attributed to the depression I felt during the time he was gone.
So I guess the question could be asked to my stbxw.. I think it comes down to selfishness. She has not called a single time to talk to him and doesn't show up early or anything to pick him up or drop him off. I've told her she can come over any time during the week or her off weekends to put him to bed (and gather some of her stuff), but she has only done it twice. I guess her long distance OM is just too demanding of her time to allow her to be responsible to her kid.
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