went out on a date last night... tripny2k6: I finally went out with this girl who has been after me for quite awhile. I met her when I first got home from Iraq about a year and a half ago. I got her number, then never called her because I had just got home and wanted to get my life back in order before I started dating again.
So anyway, we go watch a softball game together then end up at a local bar for her friends birthday get together. I must say, I was in a better mood yesterday before I went out with her because it is a lot better than sitting home and watching TV right? Wrong. Not only did I come to the conclusion that I cannot start dating for awhile because I still love my ex very much, but I also drank way too much, realized that this is not how I want to spend my life, and I definately dont want to meet my next love inside of a bar. Unfortunately, this is where most people meet singles in my area, in a bar.
So here I sit at work. Depression is even worse today because I drank last night. I'm wondering how I am ever going to get through this and move on. I realize now that this is going to take some time and I'm actually thinking about staying at my moms house for awhile so I dont go down the drain and end up at the bar every night.
the hard part about all of this is that I know she is with someone else already. Yes I'm jealous, I can admit that right? I'm jealous of the man who now is with what I considered the love of my life. I'm angry because she can find happiness with another so soon after we split up. Im angry that I cant find happiness with another because I'm hoplessly hung up on her.
Re: went out on a date last night... PennyLane: Hang in there Trip. How long has it been since she left? Is your divorce final?
Re: went out on a date last night... chaotic: Trip, It takes a while before most of us are ready to head out into the dating world. take your time with this. Next time you are going out, try not to think of it as a date and more like a chance to make a new friend. As a matter of fact, dont even call it a date. Just go out.
This will help you get past everything and move on, but "dating" too early, will not help, it may actually set you back.
Re: went out on a date last night... tripny2k6: We werent married yet. I had the ring but we were waiting for the right moment. We did though, start trying for a baby b/c we both wanted that.
Its been six weeks. We were together for about 16 months.
Re: went out on a date last night... tygerseye04: Sometimes I think dating just makes it worse...it can make you forget, but it can also make things worse.
I am an "anti-dater"--I tried dating after my ex and was successful, but I hated it. I prefer to just somehow magically meet someone, and click, then let it progress from there.
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