Re: new girl - vent mariher: Hey Complex,
I am going through the exact same situation as you. The only difference is that I have been friends with him for a few years before anything happened between us. He's been married for 4 years and he's now separated. We didn't even plan on this happening but it did and it's hard because now I love him and I know he's become more than a friend to me. He is still dealing with alot of emotional issues and I've tried to be there for him as best as I can (I also broke up with my X of 10 years just this year).
Recently I had to tell him that we could only be friends for now because he has to figure out what he needs in his life and I've promised to be there for him whenever he needs me. He doesn't want that. He says he wants me to be there by his side and he doesn't want to lose me or my friendship. It's been really difficult for both of us, but I made up my mind to be friends for now. I love him with all my heart and I really feel like we could be happy together. To describe our relationship would be tiresome, I can only type so much :) But we both need to be in this 100% He is legally separated but he has not gone through with his divorce which shows that he's not ready to do it yet. He DID get his attorney to draw them up but they haven't been delivered. I think he's trying to be absolutely positive that he's doing the right thing. So trust me I know what your going through and it's so hard. Especially when you love them so much already.
Re: new girl - vent hr: Complex as tough as it is for you, you're right she needs to make things right either way so you don't get hurt in the long run. I was sharing a perspective I had with you. It don't mean your situation will work out the way mine did. I just wanted to share my story with you so you understood both sides of this story. I sure wish you the best. Now that you have some insight you may know how to handle it better. Then you won't have to doubt yourself and wonder if it is you because it is not. Bye the way I never said that I still have a hard time forgiving myself for breaking the other guys heart.
Re: new girl - vent Mr Nice Guy: I emailed her just now and asked if she'd like to do dinner tomorrow. I have a feeling she won't be up for it.
One thing I forgot to mention, she thinks she's having... woman problems... hasn't had her period in 2 months and she thinks it's coming soon... sore breasts and in a really "bitchy" mood. She thinks she'll get it within a week or so. Dont know if that could be why she has been acting odd lately?
