Can a couple ever recover from the damage of a separation drtbone5: My wife of almost 3 years left me two weeks ago. She and our step-daughter are staying at her mother's house about five minutes away. At this point, she pretty much wants nothing to do with me. We saw our therapist last Friday and have an appointment this Friday. All that we established is that we are separated. She said we could have contact mon - fri. Her only contact this week has been angry. I give her every right to be angry with me(no infidelity or abuse). I guess my big question is that I'm wondering if there have been any successful reconciliations out there. I want her back more than anything and am willing to do anything I can. Please offer any advice. Thanks
Re: Can a couple ever recover from the damage of a separation faraday: Hey hon- I am with ya- I would like to know myself- I am sorry you are hurting- are you still reading?
Re: Can a couple ever recover from the damage of a separation big_daddy: Well....how about yes and no?
My wife and I separated for 11 months, now granted she had an OM during this entire time. But...eventually she wanted to give it a shot and it has gone...umm...reasonably well for the last 3 years. That is if you don't count the numerous online relationships she's dabbled in, or this current one that has been going on for several months now in which she actually spent a weekend with the kid.
It was good over the last few years...but it was never the same. It probably lost all potential of ever being the same the day we never lived under the same roof that first night.
Re: Can a couple ever recover from the damage of a separation drtbone5: I'm sorry to hear that big-daddy. As far as I know, she has not been seeing anyone else(I hope). She told me she was happier when I wasn't around. I am still holding out hope. I love her dearly. We have had our problems, but most relate to less than stellar communication. It's so hard not being able to see, talk, or hold someone you love but have taken for granted.
Re: Can a couple ever recover from the damage of a separation doctorjoel: In my case she was not happy and wanted to go, and that was pretty much the end of it. I loved her dearly and wanted to do anything to save the marriage. I bought some of those "save your marriage" type books but didn't help. I went to counseling alone. No matter what I did it wasn't enough. I let it go a while now, but I am still struggling from time to time with the magnitude of changes in my life.
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