Re: World of Warcraft discussion thread big_daddy: Darkrose, we've already talked about some of our similarities as far as situation goes but to answer the original question...
Yeah. I've played online games in some shape or form for about 15 years...(dating back to the old MUDs, MERCs, etc.). My wife started playing SWG with me a few years ago. We quit that and quit gaming for a while. Then we went to WoW, then AC2, then back to SWG, the CoH, and ultimately back to WoW...where both of us spent far too much time engrossed in the game (end-game raiding is fatal on relationships).
She ultimately decided she wanted the 18 year-old Grand Marshall/guild leader that lives 3000m away over our marriage.
Did it affect my relationship? Hell yes. And I've vowed to never ever play another MMORPG for the rest of my life.
Re: World of Warcraft discussion thread darkrose: [quote author=big_daddy link=topic=34596.msg361536#msg361536 date=1158177877"> Did it affect my relationship? Hell yes. And I've vowed to never ever play another MMORPG for the rest of my life.
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But it's not the games, your stbx made the choice just like mine did. She could have walked away, she could have not put herself into situations to be talking to that guy, but she did anyway. An online game is just an avenue. If it wasn't there she would have picked someone up elsewhere eventually.
It's all about being able to walk away from the game. I cancelled my account in July and never looked back.
I've played blizzard games since Diablo (1), my wife and I met when I was very much into playing Diablo II to all hours of the night.. She knew I was a gamer and accepted it because I did make time for her, I did walk away when I needed to. That's the problem with them, though--they didn't walk away. They didn't stay faithful, they didn't remain true to us and the marriage. It's not the game, it's the person running it. :)
Re: World of Warcraft discussion thread big_daddy: Nah, it wasn't the games that made her do what she did. And you're right, she would have done it eventually anyways, game or no game.
I walked away from the games for myself, not for her, not for our relationship, or anything like that. I looked back and realized, I missed out on a whole bunch of life....my kids, my family, everything....that I can never ever get back.
The time wasn't spent well, it wasn't worth it. I quit in late July. Same as you, haven't looked back since. I honestly haven't missed it a single bit. But I've seen a hell of a lot more of the real world since then. You know what I found out?
I missed my life.
Re: World of Warcraft discussion thread Whirlpool: I hate WoW, gave my son my account. I am done with these games anyway, waste waaaaaay to much real life time lol.
What server/realm were you guys on in Daoc? My last was Hib Perc.
Re: World of Warcraft discussion thread allilm: Just joined this site. Actually found it by doing a google search on "warcraft" and "divorce". My stbx (not sure I got the abbreviations and lingo down yet) is addicted to this game and I seriously blame it for a very large part of why we're getting divorced. And it's not the game itself, it's him when he's playing it and how he's made it a priority over his family and general responsibilities.
We've been separated for a couple months now, and with distance comes clarity. I put some clues, behaviors, etc. together and flat out asked him if he had an online fling going on. He didn't deny it, just said something about the attention from the woman helping his non-existant self esteem. I'm pretty sure he does have something going on with a girl player. Not sure if it started before or after our separation though. Funny thing is, you couldn't pay me to get back together with him, and I was actually very happy about our separation and divorce coming soon, but the idea of him possibly echeating (or whatever you call it), just infuriates me. For me, it's a respect thing. We were able to be pretty cordial so far in our split and assumed we'd still be seeing each other often and spend time together because of our five-year-old daughter, but now I only intend to see and talk to him when it's about our daughter, and keep that to as little as needed.
Thanks for letting me vent. Now I need to look around on this site a little more.
Allison
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