Re: Advice please- am I just being an idiot? faraday: Thanks for the kind words and the truth in them- i have said stuff like that- I know you don't want me lets do this and he says that isn't true- that has nothing to do with it...I feel like every time I take a step forward, I end up 3 steps back- Iwant my family back and I KNOW it could be better- doesn't 11 years deserve one last shot?
Re: Advice please- am I just being an idiot? jannette Garcia: [quote author=faraday link=topic=35003.msg368417#msg368417 date=1158932532">
Thanks for the kind words and the truth in them- i have said stuff like that- I know you don't want me lets do this and he says that isn't true- that has nothing to do with it...I feel like every time I take a step forward, I end up 3 steps back- Iwant my family back and I KNOW it could be better- doesn't 11 years deserve one last shot?
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Your son does deserve trying, but it takes two to try, and if your husband wont stop talking to the OW there's not much you can do. I'm all for working out a marriage as long as both people want to, with this OW between you guys, it'll never work. Think about it, you want your family back, but you dont want the OW to be in the middle all the time. IT TAKES TWO. He has to be able to let go of her if he wants to make it work with you. He can't have his cake and eat it too.
Re: Advice please- am I just being an idiot? faraday: I don't think he has done anything with her yet- it is more of an emotional thing but that hurts more in some ways- he denies me the emotional connection but he is sharing it with her- then why do I still have this hope inside of me?
Re: Advice please- am I just being an idiot? jannette Garcia: It doesnt matter that he hasnt done anything with her, she's the problem right now, and that's why you can't work things out because of her. You have hope inside of you because you love him. Just because you have hope doesnt mean he's going to stop talking to her. As long as he talks to her it wont work. Is he willing to stop talking to her? If he's not, dont even try. Tell him if he really wants to work things out, to come to you once he doesnt talk to her anymore, and hopefully that wont be too late. But if you try working things out while she's in the middle, trust me, you'll be miserable.
Re: Advice please- am I just being an idiot? faraday: Why does my head completely understand and agree with what you are saying and my heart is saying something completely different? Does the indecision ever stop? Wil I ever come to a point where it is enough?
I am sorry for ranting today- I was so happy when he said he would think about it and now...
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