same old urges surprised: So I want to call him again, but not for the usual reasons. Not because I'm all sad and missing him (I am, but that's beside the point). I want to tell him that I feel he is being an idiot. That's it. I just want him to know he is being as stupid as a man can be. But of course, I won't call him, I can't call him. It's just out of the question. So instead I will post here and tell you all, he is being an idiot.
Re: same old urges Fendann: That's right. You let it out here, cuz that's what we're here for. If you tell him ANYTHING about your feelings, you're just empowering him to do worse and relish in the thought that he's getting to you....getting under your skin....
Re: same old urges surprised: With us, there's not really any vindictiveness, so I don't think he'd feel triumphant knowing I'm thinking of him, it's more the principle. If he thinks he doesn't want to be with me, then he's gotta know what that feels like. And for my own sanity, I can't keep letting myself cave to the urges.
Re: same old urges Fendann: You can't keep caving in. It is not good for your situation, and not good for your mind. You have grown dependant upon him, his support, his voice....you need to break the contact, and stick with it (which I know you're trying to do)....every time you break the urge, you're telling your mind that it's ok to be like this...well, it's not ok. It's hurting you.
Find something that makes you happy, and do it. Read your favorite book, talk to friends on the phone, go get your nails done, or you could just go out and buy something nice for yourself. It will help.
Re: same old urges surprised: I actually think I've been doing really well. I've only emailed him once in the past 3 weeks, and I didn't even respond to his reply. I think we've gotten to the point where there's nothing new to say, so what's the point of going back and forth over the same shit, we'll just drive each other nuts. So I'm just gonna give him his space, and we'll see what happens. I'm pretty busy with school and work right now anyway, so I just have switch my focus and obsess over that, not him.
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